情緒是每個人的自然反應，它需要被表達和釋放，否則會對我們身心造成負面的影響。考慮到工作效率或者生活的安定，我們更要思考如何處理好情緒，這是人生的大問題。
每個情緒都有其存在的原因和意義，因此我們不應試圖去壓抑或遮蓋，反而應該學會接受和疏導，縮短它停留的時間。我們比較容易接受正面情緒，因此問題在於儘快讓自己恢復平靜，不要讓它繼續影響自己的決策和行為。至於負面情緒，由於我們比較難接受，所以要對其多加觀察和分析。
在遇到挫折的時候，如果反覆暗示自己需要悲傷或憤怒，就會形成一個情緒漩渦，讓我們難以走出失敗的心境。如果能夠認識到情緒越少我們的行為越合理，就不會有太多負面的情緒。其實不是情緒無法平復，而是我們一直在挑動情緒，並沉迷其中。因此，我們首先要戒掉對情緒的倚賴，即使正面的情緒也有倚賴的問題，而一旦成癮，也會帶來很多負面的效果。
從小我們已養成一種習慣：如果沒有情緒，我們就覺得自己不存在，或不被別人看見。於是，我們以低落的情緒讓自己更有存在感，並籍此遠離別人，品嘗自創的悲傷。或者以高漲的情緒引起別人注意，讓自己顯得更合群從而獲得更多安全感。
雖然這種習慣對我們的生活有幫助，但情緒的背後卻隱藏著矛盾。一個自我生起了情緒，我們的另一個自我又起來抗拒這個情緒，在內心形成一種新的衝突，使情緒更強烈。這時如果沒有理性的干預，我們就無法從情緒中獲益，而只會越來越情緒化，最後身心都被情緒所毒害。
因此，接受自己一時的失敗，也接受別人的態度和看法，我們的情緒就會相對平靜。而接受自己的情緒也非常重要，因為內心的矛盾正是情緒產生的根本原因。能夠接受，我們就能平靜地觀察自己以及保持理性，從情緒的起落中，歸納出關於我們自身的規律。下次在發生錯誤之前及時修正自己的行為，就能降低失敗的機會，也減少負面情緒的產生。對於別人，只要出現在周圍，他們的情緒也會對我們有影響，因此也需要從旁觀察並為他們提供協助，以形成一種友善的氛圍。
接受和觀察、分析並歸納，這是疏導情緒的有效方法。在情緒中，我們的自我已經失效甚至失控，能夠跳出漩渦控制局面的只有意識，因此這點非常重要。在平靜的時候，就是我們為情緒發作準備意識的時候。只要做足準備，我們的意識就能在情緒風暴中拯救自己的生命。
讓情緒自然流動，其實是讓生命的能量自然流動。不堵截也不推壓，我們的身心自然就會舒泰。處理好負面情緒，我們就能與別人建立愉快的情感關係，讓情緒不僅在自身流動，更與別人交流。能夠運用情緒，我們的意識亦會成長。
31. 人生是不斷的嘗試 (上一篇)
33. 平等看待一切事物 (下一篇)
The path to Tranquility (32)
Allows emotions to flow naturally
Emotions are a natural response for everyone, and they need to be expressed and released, otherwise they can have negative effects on our physical and mental health. Considering work efficiency or life stability, we have to think about how to deal with emotions, which is a big issue in life.
Every emotion has its own cause and meaning, so we should not try to suppress or cover it up, but should learn to accept and channel it to shorten the time it stays. We are more likely to accept positive emotions, so the problem is to quickly restore calmness and not let it continue to affect our decisions and behavior. As for negative emotions, since we are less likely to accept them, we need to observe and analyze them more.
When encountering setbacks, if we repeatedly hint that we need to be sad or angry, it will form an emotional whirlpool and make it difficult for us to get out of the mindset of failure. If we can recognize that the fewer emotions we have, the more reasonable our behavior will be, then there will not be too many negative emotions. It is not that emotions cannot be calmed, but that we keep stirring them up and becoming addicted to them. Therefore, we must first give up our reliance on emotions. Even positive emotions have addiction problems, and once addicted, they will also bring many negative effects.
Since childhood, we have developed a habit: if we don't have emotions, we feel that we don't exist or are not seen by others. Therefore, we use low emotions to make ourselves more sense of presence, and use this to stay away from others, savoring our self-created sadness. Or use high emotions to attract others' attention to make ourselves appear more gregarious, and gain more sense of security.
Although this habit helps us in our lives, there are contradictions hidden behind the emotions. One ego generates emotions, and another ego resists these emotions, forming a new conflict in the heart and making emotions more intense. If there is no rational intervention at this time, we will not be able to benefit from emotions, but will only become more and more emotional, and finally our body and mind will be poisoned by emotions.
Therefore, accepting our temporary failures and accepting others' attitudes and opinions will make our emotions relatively calm. It is also very important to accept our own emotions, because the inner conflict is the fundamental reason for the generation of emotions. If we can accept it, we can observe ourselves calmly and maintain rationality, and summarize the rules about ourselves from the ups and downs of emotions. Next time, we can correct our behavior in time before making mistakes, which can reduce the chance of failure and also reduce the generation of negative emotions. As for others, as long as they are around us, their emotions will also affect us, so we need to observe and provide assistance for them to form a friendly atmosphere.
Accepting and observing, analyzing and summarizing are effective ways to channel emotions. In emotions, our ego has become invalid or even out of control, and only consciousness can jump out of the vortex and control the situation, so this is very important. During times of calm, it is the time when we prepare our consciousness for emotional outbursts. As long as we are well prepared, our consciousness can save our lives in emotional storms.
Letting emotions flow naturally is actually letting the energy of life flow naturally. Without blocking or pushing, our body and mind will naturally be comfortable. By handling negative emotions well, we can establish pleasant emotional relationships with others, allowing emotions not only to flow within ourselves, but also to communicate with others. By being able to use emotions, our consciousness will also grow.
On June 02, 2023
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