情緒是每個人的自然反應。它需要被接受、解釋、表達和釋放，否則會對我們身心造成負面的影響。如何讓情緒自然流動，是人生的重要知識。無論從生活品質，或工作效率的角度，這些知識都是我們必須學習和實踐的。
每種情緒都有其原因和意義，所以我們不應該壓抑或隱藏它。相反，我們應該學會接受和疏導它，縮短它停留的時間。我們更容易接受正面情緒，所以關鍵是儘快冷靜下來，不要讓情緒繼續影響決策和行為。而對於負面情緒，由於我們難以接受，所以需要更多的觀察和分析。
在遇到挫折的時候，如果一再告訴自己需要悲傷或憤怒，就會形成情緒漩渦，讓我們難以走出失敗的心境。如果能夠認識到，情緒越少，行為就會越理性，我們就不會被情緒所困。其實，不是情緒無法平復，而是我們一直在挑起情緒，並沉溺其中。一旦上癮，即使是正面的情緒也會產生負面的後果。因此，我們首先要擺脫對情緒的倚賴。
從小我們養成了一種習慣：如果沒有情緒，我們就會覺得自己不存在，或不被別人看見。因此，我們利用低落的情緒，去感受自己的存在，與別人保持距離，品味自己營造的悲傷。或者，我們用高昂的情緒吸引別人的注意，讓自己顯得更合群，從而獲得更多安全感。
雖然這種習慣對我們的生活有幫助，但背後卻有矛盾。當一種情緒出現，另一種情緒就會起來抵抗，導致我們內心產生新的衝突，讓情緒更加激烈。如果此時沒有意識的介入，我們不僅無法從情緒中獲益，反而會變得越來越情緒化，最終身心都被情緒所毒害。
可見，如果接受自己暫時的情緒，也接受別人的態度和看法，我們的情緒就會相對平靜。接受失敗也非常重要，因為內在衝突正是情緒的根源。保持意識並冷靜地觀察自己，我們就能從情緒的起伏中看到自己的習慣模式。
接受、觀察、分析和總結，這些都是緩解情緒的有效方法。在情緒激動的時候，我們的行為習慣就會變得無效，導致身體失控。只有意識才能幫助我們跳出情緒的漩渦，掌控局面，所以這一點很重要。在平靜的時候，我們必須做好在情緒風暴中拯救自己的準備。
在發生錯誤之前糾正自己的行為，我們可以減少失敗的機會，以及負面情緒的產生。值得注意的是，我們應該學會在負面情緒中找到智慧和力量，在正面情緒中保持謙遜與平衡。另一方面，其他人的情緒也會影響我們。因此，我們也需要觀察別人的情緒，並為他們提供協助，以營造友善的氛圍。
讓情緒自然流動，其實就是讓生命的能量自然流動。不堵截、不壓制、不火上加油，我們的身心自然就會感到舒適和輕鬆。處理好負面情緒，我們對待別人的態度就會更好，這有助於與別人建立愉快的情感關係。透過情緒的流動，我們可以更好地掌控自己的生命，獲得更多的安全感，並快速成長。
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33. 平等看待一切事物 (下一篇)
The path to Tranquility (32)
Allows emotions to flow naturally
Emotions are a natural reaction for everyone. It needs to be accepted, explained, expressed and released, otherwise it will have a negative impact on our body and mind. How to let emotions flow naturally is important knowledge in life. Whether from the perspective of quality of life or work efficiency, this knowledge is something we must learn and practice.
Every emotion has a reason and meaning, so we shouldn’t suppress or hide it. On the contrary, we should learn to accept and channel it, shortening the time it stays. We are more receptive to positive emotions, so the key is to calm down as quickly as possible and not let emotions continue to affect decision-making and behavior. As for negative emotions, since we find it difficult to accept them, they require more observation and analysis.
When we encounter setbacks, if we repeatedly tell ourselves that we need to be sad or angry, it will form an emotional vortex, making it difficult for us to get out of the state of mind of failure. If we can realize that the fewer emotions we have, the more rational our behavior will be, and we will not be trapped by emotions. In fact, it’s not that emotions cannot be calmed down, but that we have been provoking emotions and indulging in them. Once addicted, even positive emotions can have negative consequences. Therefore, we must first get rid of our dependence on emotions.
Since childhood, we have developed a habit: if we have no emotions, we will feel that we do not exist or are not seen by others. Therefore, we use low emotions to feel our own existence, keep a distance from others, and savor the sadness we create. Or, we use high emotions to attract other people's attention, make ourselves appear more sociable, and thus gain more security.
Although this habit helps our lives, there is a contradiction behind it. When one emotion emerges, another emotion rises up to resist, causing new conflicts within us and making the emotions more intense. If there is no conscious intervention at this time, we will not only fail to benefit from emotions, but will become more and more emotional, and eventually our body and mind will be poisoned by emotions.
It can be seen that if we accept our temporary emotions and accept the attitudes and opinions of others, our emotions will be relatively calm. It is also very important to accept failure because inner conflict is the root cause of emotions. If we can stay conscious, observe ourselves calmly, and see our habitual patterns from the ups and downs of emotions.
Accepting, observing, analyzing and summarizing are all effective ways to relieve emotions. When we are emotionally agitated, our behavioral habits become ineffective, causing our bodies to lose control. Only consciousness can help us jump out of the whirlpool of emotions and take control of the situation, so this is very important. In times of calm, we must be prepared to rescue ourselves from emotional storms.
By correcting our behavior before mistakes are made, we can reduce the chances of failure and the generation of negative emotions. It is worth noting that we should learn to find wisdom and strength in negative emotions, and maintain humility and balance in positive emotions. On the other hand, other people's emotions can also affect us. Therefore, we also need to observe other people's emotions and provide assistance to them to create a friendly atmosphere.
Letting emotions flow naturally is actually letting the energy of life flow naturally. Without blocking, suppressing or adding fuel to the fire, our body and mind will naturally feel comfortable and relaxed. If we deal with negative emotions well, we will have a better attitude towards others, which will help us establish pleasant emotional relationships with others. Through the flow of emotions, we can better control our lives, gain more security, and grow faster.
On June 02, 2023
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