恐懼是一種常見的情緒反應，可以提醒我們保持警覺，避免受到傷害。但恐懼只是一種警報信號，不是一個真實的情況。當恐懼太過偏離現實而變得不合理，就會對日常生活和工作產生負面的影響，甚至會變成心理疾病，例如畏高症、社交恐懼症等。
不合理的恐懼會阻礙我們的成長，使人麻木和萎縮，心理脆弱。它也會使人缺乏勇氣面對新事物，害怕出錯，思維侷限在一個細小的範圍，就像活在一個狹窄的空間那樣。恐懼偏離現實，這反映出我們對自己和環境都不了解，也是對自己的一種詛咒。
當我們不斷感到恐懼，解除恐懼就會變成唯一需要關注的事情。這相當於進入了夢境，無法對現實有正常的認知。例如害怕被拒絕，我們也會不敢向喜歡的人表白。當想像被對方拒絕時的尷尬情形，我們就會逃離。這樣會使我們無法了解別人的意願，也忽視了自己的真實需要。
害怕被拒絕而不去行動，這樣固然不會被拒絕，但我們需要有情感交流的生活環境，否則感覺會比受到拒絕更糟糕。而且，活在恐懼中也會經常渴望得到而避免付出，因此處於被動和壓抑的狀態，不僅情緒會變得更負面，與現實也會更加脫節。
當恐懼過度強烈，我們會壓抑自己的情緒和行為。但壓抑也是一種不健康的做法，因為會讓我們陷入對危險的過度想像中，產生更多恐懼，進入情緒的惡性循環。這種情況就像話筒太接近揚聲器而產生尖叫聲那樣。所以過度恐懼甚至危及生命。
過度恐懼還會使身體產生大量的毒素，不僅容易生病，還會因為意識無法成長而導致大腦過早退化。這是恐懼造成的最大問題。長期生活在恐懼之中，我們肯定無法健康和長壽。
然而，恐懼也是生活的一部份，我們應該接受它。當感到恐懼，我們可以嘗試不再本能地壓抑自己，而是更加開放地關注別人和環境，讓意識及時跟上，發現恐懼的來源，並讓自己安全地度過困難的時刻。
解決不合理的恐懼，與解決其他心理問題相類似。當我們更多地關注愛和實踐愛，培養一種付出的心態，恐懼就會減少。因為通過愛我們能夠超越自我，不再害怕失去，從而擺脫過度的想像，並獲得足夠的意識而成為強大的生命。
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Resolving unreasonable fears
Fear is a common emotional response that reminds us to stay alert and avoid harm. But fear is just an alarm signal, not a real situation. When fear deviates too far from reality and becomes Unreasonable, it will have a negative impact on daily life and work, and may even turn into psychological diseases, such as acrophobia, social phobia, etc.
Unreasonable fear can hinder our growth, make us numb and shrink, and make us psychologically fragile. It can also make us lack the courage to face new things, be afraid of making mistakes, and limit our thinking to a small range, like living in a narrow space. Fear deviates from reality, which reflects our lack of understanding of ourselves and the environment, is also a curse on ourselves.
When we are constantly afraid, relief from fear becomes the only thing we need to focus on. This is equivalent to entering a dream state and being unable to have a normal understanding of reality. For example, if we are afraid of being rejected, we will not dare to confess to the person we like. When we imagine the awkwardness of being rejected, we will flee. This will make us unable to understand the other's wishes and also ignore our own true needs.
Being afraid of being rejected and avoiding action, this will certainly not lead to being rejected, but we need a living environment with emotional communication, otherwise the feeling will be worse than rejection. Moreover, living in fear will often desire to obtain and avoid giving, resulting in a passive and suppressed state, not only making emotions more negative, but also more disconnected from reality.
When fear is too strong, we suppress our emotions and behaviors. But suppression is also an unhealthy practice, because it will make us fall into excessive imagination of dangers, generate more fear, and enter a vicious cycle of emotions. This is like having a microphone too close to a speaker, causing a squealing sound. So the excessive fear can even be life-threatening.
Excessive fear will also cause the body to produce a large amount of toxins, which not only makes it easy to get sick, but also causes premature brain degeneration because consciousness cannot grow. This is the biggest problem caused by fear. If we live in fear for a long time, we will definitely not be healthy and live long.
However, fear is also a part of life, and we should accept it. When we feel fear, we can try not to instinctively suppress ourselves, but to pay more open attention to others and the environment, let our consciousness catch up in time, discover the source of fear, and allow ourselves to get through difficult moments safely.
Resolving unreasonable fear is similar to resolving other psychological problems. When we focus more on love and practice love, cultivate a giving mindset, fear will decrease. Because through love we can transcend egos, no longer afraid of losing, and thus get rid of excessive imagination, and gain enough consciousness to become a powerful life.
On June 30, 2023
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