和諧的感情，像大自然中美麗的風景一樣，讓人愉悅。但真正和諧的感情，只能在相愛的關係中出現。愛是生命能量在意識管道中的流動。當我們相愛，能量會從一端流到另一端，又從另一端流回來，而每次循環都使能量有所增加，因為兩人都往管道注入了生命力。我們首先從內得到滋潤，然後向外成長，同時又吸取外界的養份，滋養彼此的身心。
這種能量的交流和共享，是大自然中一種和諧的節奏。當彼此相愛，交流與共享成為彼此生活重要的一部份，就會像回音在兩座山峰之間引起共鳴，創造出悅耳的旋律。我們可能曾經體驗過，當專注地向別人表達，或專注於感受別人，這種旋律就會在心中響起。即使從未聽說過愛的定義，我們也能感覺到這是愛的前奏。隨著我們不斷地體驗，彼此的感情也會一起加深。
和諧的感情源於尊重和理解。當我們尊重彼此的存在，願意接受彼此的不完美，能夠理解雙方的處境，就有了最基本的愛心，感情就不會被瑣碎的瑕疵所擾亂。而真正和諧的感情，將會在共同成長的過程中逐漸體現。當彼此擁有共同的目標和理想，互相信賴和扶持，就會像兩棵連著根的大樹，展現出生命的融合。最能讓人感受深刻的和諧，是在彼此真誠關懷的時刻。當彼此關心對方的喜怒哀樂，感情就會變得越發親密，讓生命的能量能順暢地在彼此之間流動。
對於那些尚未達到相愛的關係，由於受到彼此習性的阻礙，能量的流動斷斷續續，會讓人感到不和諧或飄忽，引起憂慮和恐懼，擔心關係最終會破裂。這樣的擔憂有其合理之處，因為一個為相愛而建立的關係，如果長期得不到相愛的感受，很可能會變成一個普通關係，甚至是敵對的關係。無論我們表面上的原因是甚麼，處於關係中的最深層原因都是相愛，因為生命的目標就是連結，而唯有相愛才能達成這個目標。
因此，我們需要建立一個意識：感情關係如逆水行舟，不進則退。因為人都是自私的，而且都希望自己快樂，沒有人會願意在停止成長的關係中浪費時間。在這個意識的引領下，積極地發展關係，或果斷地退出一個沒有前途的關係。我們的目標是相愛，那些不能相愛的關係肯定沒有前途。而執著於那些關係，將會讓我們失去寶貴的時間、錯過發展相愛關係的機會，相當於失去一部份自由。在現實生活中，無論是友誼還是婚姻，當我們發現它已失去互助的作用，就應該考慮改善或退出。我們能看到不少和諧的關係，都是走出失敗的關係後，才發展出來的。
愛的本質是一種流動的形式，反映著我們生命更高層次的召喚。是大自然的力量讓我們不斷付出，因此愛永不會停止，就像河水永遠會流向大海一樣。而且，因為愛能讓人充滿活力，身心處於良性的循環之中，所以愛能孕育更多的愛。和諧與共鳴，就是在這種永不停止的循環中產生的。只要帶著付出的心，找到自己願意付出的對象，並有意識地與此人發展感情，我們就比較容易建立一個相愛的關係。也就是說，我們需要願意和對方分享自己的一切，包括財富、感受、生命時間甚至是生命本身。關於這一點，我們能夠看到不少人由於不願意分享而失敗，也能看到很多人，因願意分享自己的生命而成功。
當我們感受到相愛的和諧，表示彼此的心靈已經融合，價值觀和目標已趨一致。在和諧的狀態中，愛的能量在彼此間流動，人生大事的決定，都會考慮到兩個人的整體利益。這也意味著和諧產生了共鳴，讓彼此的聲音更加響亮。因此，這種和諧是彼此身心健康的反映，也是真愛的現象。例如在一個關係中，當感到彼此不再發生衝突，情感和理智都能緊密地合作，獨立生活能力也在提高，我們就能意識到彼此正在相愛。
在建立關係的初期，總會出現不和諧的時候。不用擔心，兩個在不同環境長大的人走到一起，帶著不同的習慣，不應期待他們一下子就能相愛。衝突是難免的，關係也會經歷低迷的階段，但只要他們願意繼續一起改善關係，透過溝通和調整，增長彼此的意識，並放下自我，就能逐漸協調。即使和諧不能立刻到來，但當他們在關係中不再擔心和恐懼，和諧也會自然地出現。而這份和諧的感情，將會成為彼此美好關係的印證。
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Harmonious affection stem from loving
each other
Harmonious affection are like the beautiful scenery in nature, make people happy. But the true harmonious affection can only appear in relationships based on loving each other. Love is the flow of life energy within the channels of consciousness. When we love each other, the energy flows from one end to the other and back again, with each cycle increasing the energy because each other is pouring vitality into the channel. We first receive nourishment from within, then grow outward, while also absorbing nutrients from the outside world to nourish each other's body and mind.
This exchange and sharing of energy is a harmonious rhythm in nature. When people love each other, communication and sharing become an important part of their lives, causing resonance like an echo between two peaks, creating a pleasing melody. We may have experienced that when we focus on expressing to others, or focusing on feeling others, this melody will sound in our hearts. And even if we have never heard the definition of love, we can feel that this is the prelude to love. As we continue to experience each other, the affection of each other will deepen together.
Harmonious affection stem from respect and understanding. When we respect each other's presence, are willing to accept each other's imperfections, and can understand each other's situations, the most basic love is present, and emotions will not be disturbed by trivial flaws. True harmonious affection gradually manifest in the process of mutual growth. When there are shared goals and ideals, mutual trust and support, it's like two trees with connected roots, demonstrating the fusion of life. The most profound harmony is felt when there's sincere care for each other. When we care about each other's joys and sorrows, affection become even more intimate, allowing the flow of life's energy to move smoothly between each other.
For relationships that have not yet reached the point of loving each other, due to the obstacles of each other's habits, the flow of energy is intermittent, which will make people feel disharmonious or erratic, causing worry and fear, and worry that the relationship will eventually break down. Such concerns are legitimate, because a relationship established for mutual love may turn into an ordinary relationship, or even a hostile relationship, if the feeling of mutual love is not achieved for a long time. Whatever our superficial reasons, the deepest reason for being in a relationship is to love each other, because the purpose of life is connection, and only loving each other can achieve that purpose.
Therefore, we need to establish a consciousness: emotional relationships are like rowing against the current. If there's no progress, there will be regression. Because people are selfish and want to be happy, no one wants to waste time in a relationship that stops growing. Under the guidance of this consciousness, actively develop relationships, or decisively withdraw from a relationship that has no future. Our goal is to love each other, and those relationships that cannot achieve that love certainly have no future. And being attached to those relationships will cause us to lose precious time and miss the opportunity to develop a mutual loving relationship, which is equivalent to losing part of our freedom. In real life, whether it is friendship or marriage, when we find that it has lost the role of mutual help, we should consider improving or quitting. We can see that many harmonious relationships develop after getting over failed relationships.
The essence of love is a form of flow, reflecting a higher level calling in our life. It is the power of nature that prompts us to continually give, so love will never stop, just as the river water will always flow to the sea. Furthermore, because love can invigorate people and keep their bodies and minds in a positive cycle, love can nurture even more love. Harmony and resonance are generated in this never-ending cycle. As long as we have a giving heart, find someone we are willing to give to, and consciously develop affection for this person, it will be easier for us to establish a loving relationship. That is to say, we need to be willing to share everything about ourselves with each other, including wealth, feelings, life time and even life itself. Regarding this point, we can see many people fail because they are unwilling to share, and we can also see many people succeed because they are willing to share their lives.
When we feel the harmony of love, it means that our hearts have merged and our values and goals have become consistent. In a state of harmony, the energy of love flows between each other, and decisions about major life events will take into account the overall interests of both people. This also means that the harmony resonates, making each other's voices louder. Therefore, this harmony is a reflection of each other's physical and mental health and a phenomenon of true love. For example, in a relationship, when we feel that there is no longer conflict with each other, emotions and reason can work closely together, and the ability to live independently is also growing, we can realize that we are in love with each other.
In the early stages of building a relationship, there will always be moments of disharmony. Don't worry, when two people who grew up in different environments and have different habits come together, they shouldn't be expected to love each other at once. Conflicts are inevitable, and relationships will also go through downturns, but as long as they are willing to continue to improve the relationship together, increase mutual awareness through communication and adjustments, and let go of egos, they can gradually coordinate. Even if harmony doesn't come immediately, when they no longer worry and fear in the relationship, harmony will also naturally arise. And this harmonious affection will become a confirmation of their wonderful relationship.
On July 14, 2023
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