如果經常按習慣行事，對自己的經歷缺乏理解，沒有明確的人生目標，我們就很容易迷失真正的自己。這種生活方式最初可能讓人感到輕鬆愉快，但從長遠來看，卻容易讓人陷入痛苦之中。有時不是因為沒有追求，而是我們發現所做的事情缺乏一個能接受的理由。
當迷失真正的自己，我們常常得過且過或患得患失，處於無聊或焦慮的狀態中。過度的情緒化行為，缺乏自覺的保護，讓我們的生命變得脆弱而孤獨，無法感受到喜悅。因為我們忘記了生命的本質，以及自己的真正價值和需要。
生命的本質在於連結。缺乏連結，我們也會缺乏價值感和喜悅，痛苦就會在生命的各個方面出現。因此，體驗愛是人生必不可少的一部份。然而，愛必須由真正的自己去體驗，也就是必須有意識地去行動。因此，我們需要找回真正的自己。
真正的自己其實是我們的意識，也就是對自己、別人、世界的正確認知，以及對這些事物的關係和發展規律的充份掌握。相對於自我，這種完整的意識就是真我。生命是真我必要的載體和工具。在感官和情緒正常運作的情況下，我們才能對世界有準確的認識。
正因為真我需要生命，所以我們必須維持健康的身體和心理。我們需要選擇有益身心的食物，適時滿足生命的各種需要，擺脫欲望，培養一個健康的真我。真我越健康，它就越能成長、越強大，並懂得珍惜自己的存在。這也是真我熱愛生命，並為生命提供強力支持的原因。
為了生命的存續並實現它的價值，我們還需要其他人，所以我們需要愛別人，讓彼此連結在一起。不同人的真我雖然有差別，但本質一樣，所以真我之間沒有衝突，很容易建立連結。唯有以真我去體驗愛，我們才能體驗到真愛，才能獲得充份的喜悅，並感到生命有價值。
可見，我們的所有活動，實際上都是圍繞著自己的生命來展開。然而，我們從小培養了一個虛假的自己。這個虛假的自己打敗了真我，奪取了生命的控制權，並助長了它的欲望。因此，要找回真正的自己，我們需要經歷一個艱難的過程。
我們必須認識到，雖然世界不斷變化，但一切事物都遵從因果規律，這意味著我們是自己命運的創造者，自己一切的作為都必然影響自己的未來。因此，我們需要時常回顧自己的人生，明確自己對生命的責任，並以此為指引，滿足生命的需要，以便更好地掌握自己的生命。
因此，我們首先需要接受現狀。因為無論好壞它都是行為的結果，我們都必須承受。為此，我們也需要認真地思考，為未來的自己種下一些善良的種子。唯有接受現狀，並像剝洋蔥那樣一層層剖析自己的內心，我們才能找回真正的自己。
我們的內心有很多層包裝，包括從小養成的習慣、欲望、固執和錯誤的認知，構成一個虛假的自己。這個虛假的自己就是所謂的自我。自我讓我們偏離生命的軌道，甚至違背生命，並使我們內心充滿矛盾，導致身體焦躁不安。如果我們能夠暫時忽略這個自我，嘗試每一件事情都為自己生命詳細考慮，就能發現自己的真我。當我們明白到必須讓真我來主持身心、守護生命，我們就能徹底擺脫自我的束縛。
我們的真我非常單純，它只需要生存和發展，為更好的生活而活著。圍繞著這些需要來展開生活，我們就不會再迷失真正的自己，而能夠做出更加明確的人生規劃，發展更多的生活技能和興趣，擁有更豐富的經驗。透過理解過去、覺知現在和預測未來，我們才能找回真正的自己，更好地保障生命，並充份享受生命帶給我們的一切。
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Looking for our true self
If we constantly act out of habit, lack understanding of our experiences, and have no clear life goals, it is easy to lose our true self. This type of lifestyle may initially feel easy and enjoyable, but in the long run, it can easily lead to suffering. Sometimes it is not because we have no pursuit, but because we find that what we do lacks an acceptable reason.
When we lose our true self, we often muddle along or worry about gains and losses, and are in a state of boredom or anxiety. Excessive emotional behavior and lack of conscious protection, make us vulnerable and lonely, unable to feel joy. Because we forget the nature of life and our true value and needs.
The essence of life is connection. Without connection, we will also lack a sense of worth and joy, and suffering will arise in all aspects of life. Therefore, experiencing love is an essential part of life. However, love must be experienced by our true self, which means we must act consciously, so we need to find our true self.
The true self is actually our consciousness, that is, the correct understanding of ourselves, others, and the world, as well as a full grasp of the relationships and development laws of these things. Relative to the ego, this complete consciousness is the true self. Life is the necessary carrier and tool for the true self. Only when our senses and emotions function normally can we have an accurate understanding of the world.
Just because our true self needs life, we must maintain a healthy body and mind. Because life is our only need, we must maintain a healthy body and mind. We need to choose food that benefits our physical and mental health, satisfy the various needs of life at the appropriate time, rid ourselves of desires and cultivate a healthy true self. The healthier our true self is, the more it can grow, become stronger, and cherish its existence. This is also why our true self loves life, and provides strong support for it.
In order to survive and realize its value, we also need other people, so we need to love others and keep each other connected. Although the true self of different people is different, the essence is the same, so there is no conflict between the true selves and it is easy to establish a connection. Only by experiencing love with our true selves can we experience true love, obtain full joy, and feel that life is valuable.
It can be seen that all our activities actually revolve around our own lives. However, we develop a false self from childhood. This false self defeats the true self, seizes control of life, and fuels its desires. Therefore, to find our true self, we need to go through a difficult process.
We must realize that although the world is constantly changing, everything follows the law of cause and effect, which means that we are the creators of our own destiny, and everything we do will inevitably affect our future. Therefore, we need to review our lives from time to time, clarify our responsibilities for life, and use this as a guide to meet the needs of life, so that we can better control our life.
So we first need to accept the status quo. Because it is the result of actions, and regardless of whether it is good or bad, we must bear it. For this reason, we also need to think seriously and plant some seeds of kindness for our future self. Only by accepting the present situation and analyzing our hearts layer by layer like peeling an onion can we find our true self.
There are many layers of packaging in our hearts, including habits, desires, stubbornness and wrong perceptions developed since childhood, which form a false self. The false self is what is called the ego. The ego distract us from the track of life and even go against life itself, and fill us with inner contradictions, causing the body to be restless. If we can temporarily ignore this ego and try to consider everything in detail for our own life, we can discover our true self. When we understand the importance of letting our true self control our body and mind and protect our life, we can completely free ourselves from the bondage of the ego.
Our true self is very simple, it only needs to survive and develop, living for a better life. By living around these needs, we will no longer lose our true self, but will be able to make clearer life plans, develop more life skills and interests, and have richer experiences. By understanding the past, being aware of the present, and predicting the future, we can find our true self and better protect our life, and fully enjoy all that life brings us.
On July 08, 2023
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