在愛情關係的發展過程中，熟悉感與新鮮感就像兩個優美的旋律，一個平靜，另一個熱情。熟悉感讓彼此更加親近，而新鮮感則讓相遇興奮和有趣。這兩個旋律的共鳴，讓我們感受到愛的安慰和勉勵。
從生命的開始，世界就給予我們新鮮感。母親、食物、語言、其他人，甚至愛情，最初對我們來說都是新鮮的。新事物自然而然地出現，透過感受或理解，我們將新鮮感變成了熟悉感。熟悉感是我們有選擇地獲得的，自主性的展現是生命力的一部份，代表著我們的意識。因此，熟悉感讓我們更快了解彼此，也帶來更多的安全感。
事實上，我們大部份的驚喜和期待，都源於對事物的一些熟悉。例如，當我們第一次去一家餐廳，雖然菜單上有許多陌生的選擇，但有些食材我們已經很熟悉。這種熟悉感讓我們在享受新口味時不會感到不安。可見，新鮮感是熟悉感的一種延伸，而不是完全陌生的感覺。
熟悉感是我們與世界深度連結的基礎，所以是愛情中的主旋律。隨著時間的推移，我們對彼此的了解越來越多，想法和感受也越來越一致。這種安全感讓我們能夠更冷靜地共同應對生活中的困難。可以想像，一對夫妻之所以能夠緊密相依，是因為他們有過共同生活的經歷，對彼此的情感和意識有著深刻的了解。這份熟悉感是愛情關係不可或缺的資本。
只要愛情不斷發展，我們就不會缺少新鮮感。然而，一個感情要變得深厚和持久，往往需要從熟悉中獲得理解和尊重。我們需要找到感情的歸屬。因此，對愛情的渴望，反映著我們對熟悉感的渴望。如果我們懂得熟悉感的重要性，彼此的關係就會更加成熟和穩定。只要珍惜這份熟悉感，彼此就能經得起時間的考驗，永遠相愛。
有了美好的體驗，我們會更願意了解對方的感受和想法。當我們對彼此更加熟悉，也會對關係更有信心，從而更開放自己，讓對方有新的發現。因此，隨著愛情的發展，我們創造出一首美妙的樂曲。我們不斷將新鮮感轉化為熟悉感，並在熟悉的基礎上創造更多的新鮮事物，讓愛情變得更加和諧。
過度追求新鮮感會導致焦慮和不安，也意味著我們會產生自戀而不是愛。在真正的愛情中，新鮮感與熟悉感是相輔相成的。只要我們完全接受彼此的過去，並願意一起探索新領域，就能體驗到一如既往的新鮮愛情。為此我們不僅探索外面的世界，也拜訪彼此的靈魂。
在愛情中，我們不僅認識了另一個人，也認識了真實的自己。伴侶的支持讓我們敢於面對內心的焦慮和恐懼，從而更加熟悉自己，實現意識的成長。當我們面對壓力，伴侶的存在就像一盞燈，不僅引導我們走出困境，還讓我們更深刻地認識自己的潛能。正是這種相互信任、激勵和幫助，賦予愛情無比珍貴的價值。
專注於生命中的每一刻，我們就會發現自己總是新鮮的。當我們越來越熟悉自己，就會對自己產生更深的信賴。這樣，我們也能獲得新鮮的自由感，並用更高層次的意識，來取代各種習慣。
熟悉感就像生命需要的糖，新鮮感像鹽。如果我們能將熟悉感當作愛情的基石，關心彼此之間的小細節，就能不斷創造新鮮的生活。這樣，愛情就能穩定地奏出美麗的旋律，讓彼此的靈魂在新的探索中達到更高的共鳴。
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Familiarity is the basis of love
In the development of a love relationship, familiarity and freshness are like two beautiful melodies, one calm, the other passionate. Familiarity brings people closer to each other, while freshness makes encounters exciting and interesting. The resonance of these two melodies makes us feel the comfort and encouragement of love.
From the beginning of life, the world gives us a sense of freshness. Mother, food, language, other people, even love are all new to us initially. New things appear naturally, and through feeling or understanding, we turn freshness into familiarity. Familiarity is something we acquire selectively, and the display of autonomy is part of our vitality and represents our consciousness. Therefore, familiarity allows us to understand each other faster and brings more security.
In fact, most of our surprises and expectations stem from some familiarity with things. For example, when we go to a restaurant for the first time, although there are many unfamiliar choices on the menu, some of the ingredients are already familiar to us. This sense of familiarity allows us to enjoy new flavors without feeling uneasy. It can be seen that the sense of freshness is an extension of the sense of familiarity, rather than a completely unfamiliar feeling.
Familiarity is the basis for our deep connection with the world, so it is the main theme in love. As time went on, we got to know each other better and our thoughts and feelings became more aligned. This sense of security allows us to cope with life's difficulties together more calmly. It is conceivable that the reason why a couple can be closely dependent on each other is because they have the experience of living together and have a deep understanding of each other's emotions and consciousness. This sense of familiarity is an indispensable capital of a love relationship.
As long as love continues to develop, we will not lack freshness. However, for a relationship to become deep and lasting, it often needs to gain understanding and respect from familiarity. We need to find where our feelings belong. Therefore, the desire for love reflects our desire for familiarity. If we understand the importance of familiarity, our relationships will become more mature and stable. As long as we cherish this sense of familiarity, each other will be able to withstand the test of time and love each other forever.
After a good experience, we are more willing to understand each other's feelings and thoughts. As we become more familiar with each other, we will have more confidence in the relationship, allowing us to open ourselves up more and allow the other person to make new discoveries. So, as love develops, we create a beautiful piece of music. We constantly transform freshness into familiarity and create more new things based on familiarity to make love more harmonious.
Excessive pursuit of freshness can lead to anxiety and restlessness, and it also means that we develop narcissism rather than love. In true love, freshness and familiarity complement each other. As long as we wholeheartedly accept each other's past and are willing to explore new territories together, we can experience love as fresh as ever. For this reason we not only explore the outside world, but also visit each other's souls.
In love, we not only get to know another person, but also get to know the true self. The support of a partner allows us to dare to face our inner anxieties and fears, thereby becoming more familiar with ourselves and achieving the growth of consciousness. When we face stress, the presence of a partner is like a light, not only guiding us out of difficulties, but also allowing us to understand our potential more deeply. It is this kind of mutual trust, encouragement and help that gives love an extremely precious value.
By focusing on every moment of our lives, we will find that we are always fresh. As we become more familiar with ourselves, we develop a deeper reliance to ourselves. In this way, we can also gain a fresh sense of freedom and replace various habits with a higher level of consciousness.
Familiarity is like the sugar needed for life, and freshness is like salt. If we can regard familiarity as the cornerstone of love and care about the small details between each other, we can continue to create fresh lives. In this way, love can steadily play a beautiful melody, allowing each other's souls to reach a higher resonance in new explorations.
On August 21, 2023
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