情感關係之所以令人著迷，是因為它像花朵一樣，散發出芬芳。同樣地，情感關係也十分需要我們去培育。維持情感關係需要關心、理解和幫助，就像花朵需要陽光、雨露和養份一樣。
情感的花朵很脆弱，不會像鉆石那樣堅固。早上還熱烈綻放，晚上就可能憔悴或雕謝了。風吹雨打同樣會摧殘它。因此，情感關係中的雙方都很敏感，需要互相給予很多關懷。如果一方感到受傷，情感之窗就會關閉，而另一方受到冷落，感受也會變得負面，很容易陷入一個惡性循環。這樣兩人會越走越遠，最終分手，並譴責對方背叛了感情。
情感關係失敗的原因是缺乏了解和溝通，也就是無知。其實雙方都背叛了感情，因為感情的初衷是建立友好的關係。如果溝通渠道被固執的自我所堵塞，那麼關係從開始就沒有建立好，注定無法長久。彼此缺乏交流，所有事情都會基於想像。一旦因衝突把對方想像成惡魔，那種感覺就絕不會如初見那樣了。
很多時候，初見的美好只是一種假象。彼此帶著假面具，一心想著從對方得到好處，而沒有想到如何讓關係長久。這種初見沒有帶著愛的初衷，所以會成為將來痛苦的原因。
真正美好又牢固的關係，只有相愛這一種。因為相愛不僅是一種情感上的需要，更是一種帶有豐富意識的理智行為。當帶著意識去建立關係，我們一邊體驗著彼此相處的美好時光，一邊思考著如何讓關係向前發展、更具創造力，以及如何讓彼此生活得健康愉快。
相愛關係帶有豐富的意識，已前進了一大步。它仍帶有情感關係的脆弱特質，但卻是一種互相培養的關係。雖然比不上鉆石，但它會像結晶那樣，日趨完整和堅固。因此，建立相愛的關係，我們的生活就有了穩定的幸福基礎。
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The path to Tranquility (22)
Emotional relationships are like
flowers
Emotional relationships are fascinating because, like flowers, they emit fragrance. Likewise, emotional relationships require nurturing. Maintaining emotional relationships requires care, understanding, and help, just as flowers need sunlight, rain, and nutrients.
Emotional flowers are fragile and cannot be as strong as diamonds. It may bloom warmly in the morning, but they may wither or die in the evening. Wind and rain will also destroy it. Therefore, both parties in an emotional relationship are very sensitive and need to give each other a lot of care. If one party feels hurt, the emotional window will be closed, while the other party will be left out and the feelings will become negative, and it is easy to fall into a vicious cycle. In this way, the two people will go further and further away, eventually break up, and accuse each other of betraying their affection.
The reason for the failure of emotional relationships is a lack of understanding and communication, which is ignorance. In fact, both parties have betrayed the affection because the original intention of affection is to establish a friendly relationship. If the communication channel is blocked by a stubborn ego, the relationship cannot be well established from the beginning and is destined not to last. If there is a lack of communication, then everything is based on imagination. Once the other party is imagined as a demon due to conflict, the feeling will never be the same as the first meeting.
Many times, the beauty of the first meeting is just an illusion. Each other wears a mask and only thinks about getting benefits from each other, but does not think about how to make the relationship last long. This kind of first meeting does not have the original intention of love, so it will become the cause of future suffering.
The truly beautiful and strong relationship is loving each other. Because mutual loving is not only an emotional need, but also a rational behavior with rich consciousness. When we establish a relationship with consciousness, we are experiencing the beautiful times we get along with each other, while thinking about how to develop the relationship forward, be more creative, and how to make each other live a healthy and happy life.
Mutual loving relationships with rich consciousness have taken a huge step forward. It still has the fragile quality of an emotional relationship, but it is a mutually nurturing relationship. Although it can not compare to diamond, it will become more complete and stronger like a crystal. Therefore, by establishing a mutual loving relationship, our lives have a stable foundation of happiness.
On May 23, 2023
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