感情是生活的一個重要部份，我們從中能夠獲得愉悅、幸福和滿足。但如果忽略了對感情的培養，它就會變得混濁不清，從而干擾我們的工作、學習和生活。
培養感情的第一步，是讓感情像清澈的泉水，而不是激盪的海水。不用期待激情，因為它只是一種渴望，是一時的迷惑而已。如果我們擁有一個清泉，渴望就會消失。因此，激情消失是值得慶祝的。
溝通是培養感情最重要的一環。當我們能坦誠地表達自己的感受和想法，同時也能聆聽對方的心聲，彼此的感情就會變得深厚、自然和平靜。若彼此能夠同甘共苦而變成親愛的人，感情就能體現在平凡事情當中。就如一個深泉那樣，激情只是泉水剛開始湧出時的現象，隨著泉水從底部不斷湧出，我們看到平靜的水面。
感情之所以平靜，是因為我們學會了包容。接受彼此有不同的習慣和想法，尊重對方的選擇，並欣賞彼此的差異，就能減少衝突，讓感情更加和諧。一段感情關係開始時會有衝突，激情是轉化衝突的一種力量。就像激盪的海水蒸發變成雲雨，再變成平靜的泉水和溪流，繼續滋潤大地。同樣地，當激情轉變為真正的愛情，回歸到意識和理智，更重視和關心對方的需要和感受，那麼純淨的感情就能創造更美好的生活。
感情從激烈變為平靜，這種現象常常使人誤解，因為習慣了那些興奮的情緒。一旦平靜下來，我們便擔心關係會變得無聊，亦會擔心對方厭倦我們，或對我們的需求熟視無睹。越擔心越會猜疑對方，越會增加自己的恐懼和無助感。
這時候，我們需要意識到恐懼是一個信號，它告訴我們必須留意關係的發展。不要用過去的眼光看現在，更不要帶著恐懼去想像未來，而要讓恐懼增加我們的意識，使我們對激情、愛情和婚姻有更深刻的理解。
激情是由欲望激起的情緒。如果它影響了判斷，我們就會誤以為兩人是絕配，而忽略了溝通。雖然激情也是兩人走到一起的原因，但愛情才是穩固關係的基礎。如果彼此能夠經常交流和了解，並知道對方的真心，那麼彼此就能解除防禦，讓真心相通。當彼此變得親密無間，關係就轉化為真正的愛情了。
互相理解、關心和尊重，這才是真正的愛情。在愛情中，彼此真心喜歡對方，因此朝夕相對仍然互相吸引，並且願意盡力滿足對方所需。彼此為共同利益而努力，因此愛情不僅是一種感情，更是一種為共享一切而建立的關係。
為愛情而結婚，目的是保護愛情免受外界的影響。擁有一個共同學習和成長的家，就像擁有一個清泉，讓愛情細水長流。當我們感受到這種寧靜和深遠，自然會領悟愛情的真諦，它是生命延續的更高級力量，也是一直滋潤我們心靈的清澈泉水。
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Love is like clear spring water
Emotions are an important part of life, from which we can derive pleasure, happiness, and satisfaction. But if we neglect the cultivation of emotions, it will become muddy and unclear, thus interfering with our work, study and life.
The first step in cultivating emotions is to let our emotions flow like clear spring water, rather than turbulent seawater. There is no need to expect passion, because it is only a desire, a temporary confusion. If we have a clear spring, the desire will disappear. Therefore, the disappearance of passion is something to celebrate.
Communication is the most important part of cultivating emotions. When we can express our feelings and thoughts honestly and listen to each other's hearts, our emotions will grow deep, natural and calm. If each other can share joys and sorrows and become dear people, emotions can be reflected in ordinary things. Like a deep spring, passion is only a phenomenon when the spring water first gushes out. As the spring water continues to gush out from the bottom, we see a calm water surface.
The reason why emotions are calm is because we have learned to tolerate. Accepting each other's different habits and thoughts, respecting each other's choices, and appreciating each other's differences reduces conflicts and makes emotions more harmonious. There will be conflicts at the beginning of an emotional relationship, and passion is a force that transforms conflicts. Just like turbulent seawater evaporates into clouds and rain, then becomes calm spring water and streams, continuing to nourish the earth. Similarly, when passion transforms into true love, returning to consciousness and reason, valuing and caring for each other's needs and feelings, pure emotions can create a better life.
The phenomenon of emotions changing from intense to calm is often misunderstood, because we are accustomed to those exciting emotions. Once we become calm, we worry that the relationship will become boring, and that the other person is tired of us or ignores our needs. The more we worry, the more we suspect each other, and the more we increase our fear and helplessness.
At this time, we need to realize that fear is a signal that tells us to pay attention to the development of the relationship. Don't look at the present through the eyes of the past, let alone imagine the future with fear, but let fear increase our awareness and give us a deeper understanding of passion, love and marriage.
Passion is an emotion aroused by desire. If it affects judgment, we will mistakenly think that two people are a perfect match and ignore communication. Although passion is also what brings two people together, love is the foundation of a stable relationship. If we can communicate and understand each other frequently, and know each other's sincerity, then we can let down our defenses and connect our true hearts. When we become intimate, the relationship transforms into true love.
Mutual understanding, care, and respect, this is the true love. In love, each other truly likes each other, so together day and night but still attracted to each other, and willing to do the best to meet each other's needs. Each other works for mutual interests, so love is not only an emotion, but also a relationship created for sharing everything.
Marrying for love is to protect love from outside interference. Having a home for mutual learning and growth is like having a pool of clear spring, allowing love to flow smoothly and lasting. When we feel this tranquility and profundity, we will naturally understand the true meaning of love. It is a higher power that extends life and also a clear spring that continuously nourishes our souls.
On May 28, 2023
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