寧靜的心跡 (8) 接受真實的自己

在生活中，我們常常受到外界的壓力。我們必須扮演某些角色，符合某些標準，或遵守某些規則。然而，如果在這些壓力下行事成為一種習慣，我們就會忘記自己到底是誰，甚至無法接受自己。

例如，在談話過程中，我們可能會想立即結束話題，但又覺得這樣做很不禮貌。我們開始評斷自己，擔心自己的形象受損。於是，我們假裝有興趣繼續談話，並說了很多不該說的話，最後帶著愧疚離開了。在這個例子中，別人會注意到我們的虛偽，所以這種行為也會對友誼產生負面的影響。

禮貌是外界施加給我們的壓力。然而，對別人有禮貌和尊重我們自己是相輔相成的。因此，如果不想說話，我們可以誠實地表達自己的感受。沉默也是一種選擇，但我們不應該假裝對談話感興趣。假裝不僅是對別人說謊，更是不接受此刻真實的自己。

如果帶著這種意識與別人相處，我們就不會為難自己和別人。如果不想繼續談話，我們可以誠實地說出來，在沉默之前尋求別人的理解。這會讓彼此更加容易相處。

接受真實的自己，是一個培養我們勇氣和意識的過程。我們需要深入了解自己的優點和缺點、興趣和愛好，以及價值觀和信念。同時，我們也需要學習關注自己的真實狀況，並接受外界的合理批評。一旦產生負面情緒，我們也需要接納和安慰自己，盡快恢復平靜。

對別人誠實，表示我們對自己和別人都有信心，所以是接受自己的一個關鍵。然而，能夠接受別人的真實感受和想法，才表示我們真正接受了自己。這也體現了我們對自己和別人的尊重，以及對彼此同等重要的理解。當我們處處展現真實的自己，讓別人更容易理解和支持我們，這就是對自己和別人的愛。

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目錄

The path to Tranquility (8)
Accepting our true self

In life, we are often under external pressure. We have to play certain roles, conform to certain standards, or follow certain rules. However, if acting under these pressures becomes a habit, we forget who we really are and even fail to accept ourselves.

For example, during a conversation, we may be tempted to end the topic immediately but feel it would be rude to do so. We begin to judge ourselves and worry about our image being tarnished. So we continued the conversation pretending to be interested, said a lot of things we shouldn't have said, and left feeling guilty. In this example, others will notice our hypocrisy, so this behavior will also have a negative impact on the friendship.

Politeness is a pressure exerted on us by the outside world. However, being polite to others and respecting ourselves go hand in hand. So if we don’t want to talk, we can be honest about how we feel. Silence is also an option, but we should not pretend to be interested in the conversation. Pretending is not only lying to others, but also not accepting the true self at this moment.

If we get along with others with this consciousness, we will not make things difficult for ourselves and others. If we don’t want to continue the conversation, we can speak up honestly and seek understanding before falling silent. This will make it easier to get along with each other.

Accepting the true self is a process that cultivates our courage and consciousness. We need to develop a deep understanding of our strengths and weaknesses, our interests and hobbies, and our values ​​and beliefs. At the same time, we also need to learn to pay attention to our true situation and accept reasonable criticism from the outside world. Once negative emotions arise, we also need to accept and comfort ourselves and restore calm as soon as possible. 

Being honest with others shows that we have confidence in ourselves and others, so it is a key to accepting ourselves. However, being able to accept other people's true feelings and thoughts means that we truly accept ourselves. It also reflects our respect for ourselves and others, and our understanding that each other is equally important. When we show our true selves everywhere and make it easier for others to understand and support us, this is love for ourselves and others.

On May 08, 2023