也許我們嚮往過遠方和夢幻，但始終找不到一個安頓自己的地方。儘管不斷到處尋覓，但我們沒有意識到，真正的安頓，必須從安頓自己的心靈開始。安頓就是活在當下。不斷尋找無法獲得安頓，因為我們必須投入時間和精力，去建設一個真正的家。
或許我們住過很多房子，但真正的家卻很少。房子有家的樣子，但總是不長久，歸屬感很快就消失。或者缺乏安全感，少許懷疑或恐懼就能摧毀它。這些只是家的替代品。如果我們沒有將真正的自己投入其中，房子只是身體的居所，伴侶也只是同住的房客。因此，無論更換了多少房子與房客，都不會出現一個真正的家。
真正的家必須從內心開始建設。在成長之後，當我們還是獨自一個人，就要有意識地構思美好家園的藍圖。不僅是尋找一個棲身之所，更要找到寄託自己情感和心靈的地方，找到為之努力一生的事業。物質和心理上的舒適、溫馨的氛圍，以及相近的價值觀，這些都是一個真正的家必須具備的要素。而這個家真正的基礎是真我意識，有這個基礎我們才懂得怎樣調和彼此的需求。
建設真正的家，是人生的偉大事業。無論是外在還是內在的事業，都與我們的意識密切相關。內在的事業，更決定我們對外在事業的選擇和能力。因此，我們必須首先學會愛，這是心靈最大的事業。懂得愛，意味著我們了解自己和別人的真正需要，願意盡心盡力，一起建設和維護，並與別人共同克服困難，共享努力的成果。
外在的事業都必須與其他人合作，學會愛就能合作愉快和成功。我們也需要發現真正的愛人，才能建設真正的家。沒有真正相愛的人，我們就缺少照見心靈的鏡子，無法看清自己的內心，那麼建設真正的家就無從開始。我們會繼續尋覓，繼續無視自己內心的需要，也會忽略身邊的美好事物。而真正的家，卻是以無數細小而美好的事物構成的。
有了一個能夠互相幫助、共享成果的伴侶，心靈就能安頓，因此無論身體在哪裡停留，我們都能欣賞當地的生活和環境。我們的需求不會太多，兩個人一起努力建設，真正的家就會出現，而我們居住在其中，自然會感受到寧靜和喜悅。
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The path to Tranquility (45)
Building a true home
Perhaps we have yearned for the distant places and dreams, but we can never find a place to settle down. Despite constantly searching far and wide, we fail to realize that true settlement must begin with settling our own hearts. To settle is to live in the present. Continuously searching will not bring us settlement, because we must invest time and effort to build a true home.
Maybe we have lived in many houses, but few of them were true homes. Houses may have the appearance of a home, but they never last, and the sense of belonging quickly disappears. Or they lack a sense of security, and a little doubt or fear can destroy it. These are just substitutes for a home. If we do not invest our true selves in it, the house is just a place for our bodies, and our partner is just a roommate. Therefore, no matter how many houses and roommates we change, a true home will never appear.
A true home must be built from the inside. After growing up, when we are still alone, we must consciously conceive a blueprint for a beautiful home. We must not only find a place to shelter, but also find a place to deposit our emotions and souls, and find a career to strive for throughout our lives. Material and psychological comfort, a warm atmosphere, and similar values are all elements that a true home must possess. The true foundation of this home is self-awareness, and with this foundation, we can understand how to harmonize each other's needs.
Building a true home is a great undertaking in life. Both external and internal undertaking are closely related to our consciousness. Internal undertaking determines our choices and abilities for external undertaking. Therefore, we must first learn to love, which is the greatest undertaking of the soul. Understanding love means that we understand our own and others' true needs, are willing to do our best, build and maintain together, and overcome difficulties and share the fruits of our efforts with others.
External careers must all cooperate with others, and learning to love can make cooperation happy and successful. We also need to discover true lovers in order to build a true home. Without people who truly love each other, we lack the mirror to see our souls and cannot see our own hearts clearly, so building a true home cannot begin. We will continue to search, continue to ignore our inner needs, and ignore the beautiful things around us. But a real home is made of countless small and beautiful things.
With a partner who can help each other and share the results, the mind can be at peace, so no matter where the body stays, we can appreciate the local life and environment. Our needs will not be too many, and with two people working together to build, a true home will appear, and we will naturally feel tranquility and joy living in it.
On June 15, 2023
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