在每個人的成長過程中，父母無疑是最重要的支持。他們努力培養我們的成長，在物質和精神上給了我們很多。這樣的給予，有時會帶給我們巨大的壓力。然而，即使對父母感到不滿和失望，我們還是要學會感激。這既是對父母的回報，也是一種解脫，讓我們能夠勇敢地走出他們所設定的界限，實現自主和獨立。
對父母的感激，並不代表我們要否定自己的感受。我們可以理解，父母受他們的經驗所限，行為和選擇有時會讓我們感到受傷。但這些也可以成為我們成長過程中的重要教訓。例如，有些父母在教育孩子時過於嚴厲，導致孩子遭受心理壓力。但正是這種經歷，促使孩子學會如何堅強，如何在逆境中尋找機會。
感激不僅是一種情感，更是一種行動。每當我們對父母感到不滿或怨恨時，其實反映出我們對自己的不滿。學會從困難中尋找成長的機會，將這些負面情緒轉化為感激，我們可以向前邁出重要的一步。深入理解父母的背景與苦衷，學會感激他們，在這個過程中我們會找到自己的價值。
學會感激父母，也是我們學會接受自己的過程。接受自己，是我們感激父母的基礎。每個人都有優點與缺點，都是我們生命的組成部份，就像拼圖一樣，每一塊都有它的價值與意義。只有當我們完全接受自己，才能真正理解父母的選擇，放下對他們的執著。
從另一個角度去看，不感激父母，其實就是不感激生命。恨父母或不能原諒他們，實際上就是恨我們自己。恨是一種無意識的表達，本質上是對存在的反對。因此，要感激父母，首先要化解恨，讓愛充滿我們的心。
如果我們愛自己，即使父母傷害了我們，也會很容易原諒他們。原因很簡單，沒有父母，我們就不會來到這個世界。愛也讓我們意識到，父母不僅生下了我們，而且，如果沒有他們的照顧，我們可能無法長大。即使他們一時的疏忽，都可能危害我們的生命。
當完全接受自己，內心充滿了愛和喜悅，我們就會對父母懷有深深的感激。是父母將我們帶到這個世界，給了我們體驗生命樂趣的第一個機會。當我們體驗到生活的美好，就能感激父母為我們所做的一切。正因為我們現在的生活如此美好，就證明父母過去所做的一切都是對的。如果他們沒有那樣做，我們就不會擁有今天的一切。
因此，父母不必擔心。只要孩子將來過得好，就一定會感激父母的。如果父母也過著好的生活，並且感激他們的父母，孩子就會有一個很好的榜樣。美好生活的關鍵，在於我們對生命心存感激。從感激我們自己的生命開始，然後感激父母和其他人，進而感激大自然。能夠做到這一點，證明我們完全接受自己，並且擁有美好的人生。
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The path to Tranquility (48)
Only by accepting ourselves can we grateful to our parents
In everyone's growth process, parents are undoubtedly the most important support. They worked hard to foster our growth and gave us a lot both materially and spiritually. Such giving sometimes brings us tremendous pressure. However, even if we feel dissatisfied and disappointed with our parents, we still have to learn to be grateful. This is both a reward to our parents and a relief, allowing us to bravely step out of the boundaries they set and achieve autonomy and independence.
Being grateful to our parents does not mean that we should deny our own feelings. We can understand that our parents are limited by their experience and their actions and choices may sometimes hurt us. But these can also be important lessons in our growth. For example, some parents are too strict when educating their children, causing their children to suffer psychological stress. But it is this experience that prompts children to learn how to be strong and how to find opportunities in adversity.
Gratitude is not only an emotion, but also an action. Whenever we feel dissatisfied or resentful towards our parents, it actually reflects our dissatisfaction with ourselves. By learning to find opportunities for growth in difficult situations and transforming those negative emotions into gratitude, we can take an important step forward. Deeply understand our parents’ background and difficulties, learn to be grateful to them, and in the process we will find our own value.
Learning to be grateful to our parents is also a process in which we learn to accept ourselves. Accepting ourselves is the basis for our gratitude to our parents. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, which are part of our lives, just like a puzzle, each piece has its value and meaning. Only when we fully accept ourselves can we truly understand our parents' choices and let go of our obsession with them.
From another perspective, not being grateful to your parents actually means not being grateful for life. Hating our parents or not being able to forgive them is actually hating ourselves. Hate is an unconscious expression, essentially opposition to existence. Therefore, to be grateful to our parents, we must first resolve hatred and let love fill our hearts.
If we love ourselves, it will be easy to forgive our parents even if they hurt us. The reason is simple, without parents, we would not come into this world. Love also makes us realize that our parents not only gave birth to us, but also, without their care, we might not be able to grow up. Even a moment of negligence on their part could endanger our lives.
When we fully accept ourselves and our hearts are filled with love and joy, we will feel deep gratitude towards our parents. It is our parents who bring us into this world and give us the first opportunity to experience the joy of life. When we experience the beauty of life, we can be grateful for everything our parents have done for us. Just because our lives are so wonderful now, it proves that everything our parents did in the past was right. If they hadn't done that, we wouldn't have what we have today.
Therefore, parents don't need to worry. As long as the children live a good life in the future, they will definitely be grateful to their parents. If parents also live a good life and are grateful to their parents, the children will have a good role model. The key to a good life is that we are grateful for life. Start by being grateful for our own lives, then being grateful to our parents and others, and then being grateful to nature. Being able to do this proves that we fully accept ourselves and have a wonderful life.
On June 19, 2023
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