在我們的成長過程中，父母是最重要的人。他們為我們付出了很多，包括時間、金錢和精力。儘管我們會因一些事情而對他們感到不滿或失望，但我們需要學會原諒他們，並感激他們為我們所做的一切，這樣我們才能真正獨立於父母。
然而，除非我們接受自己，並活在充滿愛的環境裡，否則不可能真正感激父母。有些人會氣憤地質問父母，為何把他們帶到世上受苦。甚至有人恨父母沒得到他們同意就生下他們，所以很難原諒父母，更別說感激了。
不感激父母，其實是不感激自己的生命。恨父母或不能原諒父母，其實都是恨自己。恨是無意識的表達，也反映出對生存的抗拒。因此，要感激父母，首先要把恨化成愛。
如果我們愛自己，即使父母曾經傷害過我們，也很容易原諒。因為沒有父母，我們也不會來到世上。我們也會意識到，父母不僅生下我們，如果沒有他們的照料，我們很可能不能長大成人。即使他們一時疏忽，也會危及我們的生命。
恨和愛都出於我們的生命能量。如果不接受自己，進而不接受世界，那麼生命的能量就會產生恨，更會導致我們去破壞。負面情緒就是恨的雛形，它首先會損害我們的身心。但要完全接受自己並不容易。大部份人都會接受自己的某些特質，否則很難生存，但又不願意接受自己的全部。
接受自己，就如感激父母那樣，也必須從感激自己的生命開始。我們可以首先感激那些接受的部份。生命是一個整體，如果我們能接受並感激自己的一部份，那麼逐漸也會明白應該接受和感激它的全部。這是因為，缺了那些我們不接受的部份，那些我們接受和感激的也不會存在。
當我們全然地接受自己，內心就會充滿喜悅，生命的能量就會產生愛，也會對父母產生深深的感激。是他們把我們帶到這個世界，並給了我們體驗人間喜悅的第一個機會。如果我們體驗過相愛的美好，就能感激父母對自己所做的一切。因為我們現在的生活那麼美好，說明父母過往所做的一切都是對的，如果他們不那樣做，我們就不會擁有今天的一切。
因此，只要孩子將來活得好，肯定會感激父母的。我們不必擔心，因為美好生活的關鍵因素，就是對生命充滿感激。當我們活得好，並且感激我們的父母，孩子也會有好的榜樣。從感激自己的生命，到感激父母和其他人，進而感激大自然，能夠這樣，意味著我們接受自己，有一個美好的人生。
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The path to Tranquility (48)
Forgiving and grateful to our parents
In our growth process, parents are the most important people. They have given us a lot, including time, money, and energy. Although we may feel dissatisfied or disappointed with them for some things, we need to learn to forgive them and be grateful to everything they have done for us, so that we can truly become independent from our parents.
However, it is impossible to truly be grateful to our parents unless we accept ourselves and live in a loving environment. Some people will angrily ask their parents why they brought them into the world to suffer. Some people even hate their parents for giving birth to them without their consent, so it's hard to forgive their parents, let alone feel grateful.
Not being grateful to our parents is actually not being grateful to our own lives. Hating or not forgiving our parents is actually hating ourselves. Hate is an unconscious expression that also reflects resistance to survival. Therefore, to be grateful to our parents, we must first turn hate into love.
If we love ourselves, it will be easy to forgive even if our parents have hurt us. Because without our parents, we would not have come to this world. We also realize that our parents not only gave birth to us, but without their care we would most likely not have grown to adulthood. Even a moment of negligence on their part can endanger our lives.
Hate and love both come from our life energy. If we do not accept ourselves, and therefore the world, then the energy of life will produce hatred, and it will lead us to destruction. Negative emotions are the prototype of hate, which first damages our body and mind. But it’s not easy to fully accept ourselves. Most people will accept certain traits of themselves, otherwise it is difficult to survive, but they are unwilling to accept all of themselves.
Accepting ourselves, like being grateful to our parents, also must start from being grateful to our own lives. We can first be grateful to the parts of ourselves that we accept. Life is a whole, and if we can accept and be grateful to a part of ourselves, we will gradually understand that we should accept and be grateful for all of it. This is because without the parts we do not accept, the parts we accept and be grateful to would not exist.
When we fully accept ourselves, our hearts will be filled with joy, and the energy of life will produce love, and we will also have deep gratitude for our parents. They brought us into this world and gave us the first opportunity to experience joy. If we have experienced the beauty of love, we can be grateful to everything our parents have done for us. Because our lives are so beautiful now, it shows that everything our parents did in the past was right. If they did not do that, we would not have what we have today.
Therefore, as long as the children live well in the future, they will definitely be grateful to their parents. We don’t have to worry, because a key factor in living well is being grateful for life. When we live well and be grateful to our parents, our children will also have good examples. From being grateful for our own lives, to being grateful to our parents and other people, to being grateful to nature, being able to do this means that we accept ourselves and have a wonderful life.
On June 19, 2023
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