如果我們想終止欺騙，最有效的做法就是忽略它。當沒人再關注虛假的東西，欺騙者不必再為掩蓋欺騙而作出更多的虛假，欺騙才會停止。這就像把一盆植物放置在角落，不再澆水，它就會逐漸枯萎。
當留意到別人在假笑，我們只需忽略它，讓它儘快過去。但如果我們發現自己在假笑，即使笑了一半，都應該立即停止，然後忽略之前的行為，讓自己放鬆，不再裝作。只有發自內心地笑，才表示我們真的開心，並展現美麗而真誠的笑容。如果勉強裝笑，只會讓我們的表情顯得可笑。
這並不是說不需要注意禮貌，而是說我們要有意識地把握一個合適的尺度。如果真的有必要裝作，我們也可以有意識地做，這樣比胡亂裝作要好得多，也不會讓假笑過多地傳遞出去，大家反而不用出於禮貌而陪笑。
在處處有欺騙的複雜社會，為保護自己而適當地假裝也是可以理解的。例如假裝對虛假的陳述有興趣，讓騙子更多地暴露它的虛偽，使周圍的人看得更清楚。我們必須認識到，讓欺騙繼續存在最終會傷害到自己。尤其在一對一的關係中，我們絕不要欺騙別人，因為真誠才有美好的關係，否則自己必然會成為受害者。
要終止欺騙，首先要從自己的言論開始，只使用真實的信息來說話。不實的信息會誤導別人，並造成負面的影響和傷害。因此，我們需要慎重表達自己的想法，讓我們的言論更實際並且有根據。同時，我們的行為也必須出於真實的想法和信念，與我們的言論相一致。這樣，我們就不會無意中欺騙了別人，也不容易受到自我或別人的欺騙，從而減少周遭環境的虛假東西和欺騙現象。
我們不應該讓欺騙蔓延下去，而是應該透過自己的言行去終止欺騙。終止欺騙是對自己的要求，因為我們不能控制別人。只有通過自我修正和調整，我們才能擁有清純的內心，並幫助社會變得更加美好。
63. 靈感出現的時刻 (上一篇)
65. 以真誠展現生命之美 (下一篇)
The path to Tranquility (64)
To end deceit starting from ourselves
If we want to end deceit, the most effective way is to ignore it. When no one pays attention to false things, deceivers will no longer need to create more falsehoods to cover up their own deceit, and deceit will come to an end. This is like placing a potted plant in a corner without watering it, and it will gradually wither away.
When we notice someone fake smiling, we just need to ignore it and let it pass as quickly as possible. But if we catch ourselves fake smiling, even if we're halfway through it, we should immediately stop and then ignore our previous behavior, relax, and stop pretending. Only when we genuinely laugh from the heart does it show that we are truly happy and display a beautiful and sincere smile. Forcing a smile will only make our expression look ridiculous.
This does not mean that we do not need to pay attention to politeness, but it means that we must consciously grasp an appropriate scale. If it's really necessary to pretend, we can do it consciously, which is much better than pretending randomly. This way, fake smiles won't spread too much, and no one will have to smile along with it out of politeness.
That is, if we must pretend, we must do so consciously. In a complex society where there is deceit everywhere, it's understandable to pretend appropriately to protect ourselves. For example, pretending to be interested in a false statement, allows the liar to expose its hypocrisy more and make it clearer to those around them. We need to realize that allowing deceit to continue will eventually hurt ourselves. Especially in one-to-one relationships, we should never deceive others, because sincerity creates a beautiful relationship, otherwise, we will inevitably become the victim.
To end deceit, we must start with our own words and only speak with true information. False information will mislead others and cause negative effects and harm. Therefore, we need to express our thoughts carefully and make our words more practical and well-founded. At the same time, our actions must be based on true thoughts and beliefs and consistent with our words. This way, we won't unintentionally deceive others and we will be less susceptible to deceit from our egos or others, thereby reducing falsehoods and deceit in the surrounding environment.
We should not allow deceit to spread, but should put an end to it through our words and actions. To end deceit is a demand for ourselves because we cannot control others. Only by self-correction and adjustment can we have a pure heart and help society become a better place.
On July 06, 2023
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