人生的根本追求不外乎是幸福。但有時候，幸福很像一條地平線。我們看到它，並向它走去，但卻無法接近。這象徵著，我們所看到的幸福，是某些人在某個時空中，共同透過愛創造出來的氛圍。因此，我們必須相愛，才能創造屬於自己的幸福。
在我們的語言和文學中，經常出現"愛"這個字，但它的含義卻是模糊的。在某些方言中，愛可以表示想要，例如問："你愛米飯還是粥？" 而恨則表示想要而得不到，例如說："我好恨食雪糕。" 這種語言現象揭示了愛和恨的共同起源。傳統上，愛和恨的發生都是由欲望和自我所引起，而不是出於生命的真正需要。因此，這種"愛"並不能帶來幸福。
愛這個字的含義確實很模糊。當它作為名詞的時候，所表達的可能是一種感覺，例如說："在這個春天，我獲得了愛。" 有時候，它被用來表達一種情緒，或者是一種態度，例如說："我愛吃巧克力。" 這些感覺、情緒或態度都是模糊的。而當我們把愛用作動詞，它的含義就變得更加模糊了。我們對別人說"我愛你"，但這裡的"愛"到底是甚麼意思呢？
為了表達現代文明中的真愛，我們需要給"愛"這個字賦予準確的含義，而不是濫用它。不僅這樣，我們還需要以行動去實踐愛的含義，把"愛"變為一個專用的動詞，僅代表一種基於關懷和尊重的連結行動。從這種行動中產生的感受，我們可以用"幸福"二字來表達。幸福是在我們在相愛的行動中，甚至是行動之後才出現的感受。
愛是一種心甘情願的給予和接受，生命的能量透過兩人的意識，循環並互相促進。當彼此的意識一起成長，幸福就會留駐在我們的心中。幸福是大自然最精妙的禮物，但需要我們以愛去接受。當變得敏感並充滿活力，特別關注別人的需要，就表示我們已經準備好，只需勇敢地行動。
然而，愛還要有一種深度。每天說“我愛你”只是一個非常表面的行為。獻上一束鮮花，大聲說出愛的誓言，這可能有點讓人感動，但是否真的愛，還要看以後的行動。 言語與行動、欲望與愛之間的深度可以有很大的差異，我們需要作出真正有益生命的行動，為彼此的身心健康投入時間和精力。這才是真正的愛，將會讓彼此感到喜悅和幸福。愛的目標是建立一個強壯的"我們"，而不是一個固執的自我，因此它是一種共享生命的行動。
與喜歡的人一起冒雨前行，我們會感到一種共同進退的氛圍。當我們在晴朗的夜晚，手牽手在園中漫步，深情地討論著彼此的需要，那種互相關心的氛圍也會出現。這是幸福的氛圍。它是在相愛中自然而然地形成的。我們能夠牢記這種的氛圍，因為它的存在象徵著曾經降臨我們心靈的幸福，以及我們曾經為而愛採取的行動。
愛是動詞，意味著愛是生命力的發揮，是生命的高級創造行動。在地球上，只有人類這種生物，才有這種創造力。愛不僅創造精神上的事物，雖然它的作品帶有深刻的精神品質，但它其實是一種出於保護生命的全身心互助行動。相愛的關係，是由我們的同情心和同理心共同協作，融合了親情和友情而發展起來的，是人與人之間最緊密的聯繫。
生命是我們的載體，我們是寄居於生命的意識。為了保護我們的載體，我們需要連結在一起，因此愛是由意識驅動的行動。我們可以從這點去判斷自己是否真正愛著。這種行動的目的是保護生命，因此愛會反過來提高我們的意識，促使我們成長。愛這種行動最終會讓生命變得更完善，讓我們進化為更自由的存在。
要實踐愛，我們需要由意識和理性引領身心，重視彼此的共同的需求，並接受彼此的差異，以積極的行動去維護彼此的健康，延緩衰老。例如飲食、運動、情緒和意識，各方面我們都根據雙方的特質去安排，照顧彼此的感受。當我們主動去愛別人，而不是期待被愛，我們就能走出夢想，建立真正相愛的關係。
透過彼此相愛，我們能創造更大的自由，而自由就是幸福的泉源。因此，如果我們追求幸福，可以轉變為培養愛的能力，主動去給予，並建立真正相愛的關係。這樣，幸福自然會在我們的內心滋長。
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Love is the action that creates happiness
The fundamental pursuit of life is nothing more than happiness. But sometimes, happiness is like a horizon. We see it and move towards it, but cannot get close. This symbolizes that the happiness we see is the atmosphere created by some people in a certain time and space through love. We must love each other to create our own happiness.
In our language and literature, the word "love" often appears, but its meaning is vague. In some dialects, love can mean wanting, for example, asking: "Do you love rice or porridge?" While hate means wanting but can not getting, for example, saying: "I hate eating ice cream." This linguistic phenomenon reveals the common origin of love and hate. Traditionally, the occurrence of love and hate is caused by desire and ego, not the real needs of life. Therefore, this "love" does not bring happiness.
The meaning of the word love is indeed very vague. When it is used as a noun, it may express a feeling, for example, saying: "In this spring, I gained love." Sometimes, it is used to express an emotion, or an attitude, such as saying: "I love chocolate." These feelings, emotions, or attitudes are all vague. And when we use love as a verb, its meaning becomes even more vague. We say to others "I love you", but what does "love" really mean here?
In order to express the true love in modern civilization, we need to give an accurate meaning to the word "love" and not abuse it. Not only that, we also need to practice the meaning of love with actions, turning "love" into a dedicated verb, which only represents an action of connection based on care and respect. The feeling generated from this kind of action, we can express with the word "happiness". Happiness is a feeling that occurs during or even after the action of loving each other.
Love is a willingly giving and receiving, the energy of life circulates and promotes each other through the consciousness of two people. When the consciousness of each other grows together, happiness will stay in our hearts. Happiness is nature's most exquisite gift, but it needs to be received with love. When we become sensitive and energetic, paying special attention to the needs of others, we are ready and just need to act with courage.
However, love must have a depth. Saying "I love you" every day is just a very superficial behavior. Presenting a bouquet of flowers and saying the vow of love loudly may be a bit touching, but whether it is really love depends on future actions. There can be a big difference in depth between words and actions, desires and love, we need to take actions truly beneficial for life, invest time and energy for each other's physical and mental health. This is true mutual love that will make each other feel joy and happiness. The goal of love is to build a strong "we" rather than a stubborn ego, and it is therefore an action of life sharing.
Walking in the rain with the people we like, we will feel an atmosphere of advancing and retreating together. When we walk hand in hand in the garden on a clear night, discussing each other's needs affectionately, that atmosphere of caring for each other will also appear. This is the atmosphere of happiness, it is naturally formed in mutual love. We can remember this atmosphere because its existence symbolizes the happiness that once came to our hearts and the actions we once took for love.
Love is a verb, which means that love is the expression of vitality and the advanced creative action of life. On earth, only human beings have this kind of creativity. Love not only creates spiritual things, although its works have a profound spiritual quality, but it is actually a wholehearted mutual aid action out of protecting life. The relationship of mutual love, is developed by the cooperation of our compassion and empathy, blending family affection and friendship, and is the closest connection between people.
Life is our carrier, and we are the consciousness that resides in life. In order to protect our carrier, we need to connect together, so love is an action driven by consciousness. The purpose of this action is to protect life, so love will in turn enhance our consciousness and promote our growth. The action of love will eventually make life more perfect, and make us evolve into a freer existence.
To practice love, we need to lead our body and mind with consciousness and reason, value each other's common needs, accept each other's differences, and take positive actions to maintain each other's health and delay aging. For example, diet, exercise, emotions and consciousness, we arrange all aspects according to the characteristics of both parties and take care of each other's feelings. When we take the initiative to love others instead of expecting to be loved, we can step out of dreams and establish a true mutual loving relationship.
By loving each another, we create greater freedom, and freedom is the source of happiness. Therefore, if we pursue happiness, we can turn it into cultivating the ability to love, proactively giving, and establishing a truly loving relationship. In this way, happiness will naturally grow within us.
On July 17, 2023
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