當我們在生活中感到無力和孤單，就是我們需要創造力的時候。我們有本能上的驅動力，但這些力量並不具備創造性本質，只會促使我們求生和繁衍。創造力是一種創新能力。當我們用生命創造出大自然原本沒有的事物，就是創新。然而，這些並不是虛構的事物，而是根據別人的需要來創造的。這意味著我們感到彼此需要新事物，這些自私的需要讓彼此連結，引發我們的創造力。
事實上，創造新事物的能力無法孤立地存在，它需要交流和互動，才能出現、成長並發揮作用。即使我們有能力獨立思考和行動，但目標依然與別人有關。我們希望別人欣賞和使用我們的作品，最低期望是獲得別人的認同。例如在藝術創作中，我們可能獨自創作，但我們想像著別人對這件作品的感受。如果缺乏這種想像，我們可能無法完成一件完整的作品。創造的原動力就是在這種情感的連結中出現的。
從情感關係的觀察和感受來看，有時候我們會感到孤獨和壓力，並對生活產生厭倦。我們還會覺得有必要出外尋找樂趣或冒險，否則關係會逐漸退步。也許此時我們仍有創作，但那些作品會傾向於宣洩內心的不滿，例如一些反映對世界或人生失望的藝術作品。而另一些時候，我們心境平靜又活力充沛，對未來充滿希望。在這些時候，我們不僅有藝術創作，還有發明和創新，產生提高生活質素的作品。這意味著，在情感關係中，如果彼此能夠更緊密地連結，不僅可以在精神世界創造一種簡單的美好，使我們僅僅在一起就能感到快樂，還能激發我們在物質世界的創造力。
更緊密的連結，是情感和理智全面的融合和合作。這種連結就是相愛。從相愛中產生的力量，就是心連心的力量，能使我們產生靈感和創作的衝動。當我們感到心連著心，就會感到自己有創意，也感到需要為彼此創造更美好的生活。例如最早的打字機器，就是為愛人而發明的。因此，心連心的力量不僅能讓我們生活得更好，也造福其他生命。
當我們同情別人的感受，就能與別人產生情感上的連結。例如，當看到別人痛苦，我們憶起自己也經歷過，知道這是困難的時刻。這使我們有機會理解彼此的需要，共享彼此的意識，並互相支持。透過對別人的理解，我們也能發現彼此的共同點，例如彼此都需要健康和幸福的生活。因此，心連心的力量源於同情和理解，也就是來自我們的真我意識，而不是一些無意識的習慣。當我們有意識地專注於生活上每一件小事，就會獲得一個喜悅和平靜的心境，思考如何滿足自己和別人的需要，並創造出能滿足需要的新事物。擁有心連心的力量，我們就會創造美好的關係，以及更適合的生活環境。
然而，要獲得心連心的力量，有賴於我們對情感連結的深刻感受和正確理解。感知上，情感連結讓我們感受對方，真切地知道別人的需要。而在理性上，情感連結意味著有意識地關心對方，並為彼此的健康投入時間和努力。當感受到情感連結的美妙，以及理解它的利己目標和意義，我們就會希望彼此的連結能更進一步，讓一個普通關係轉化為心連心的關係。我們也知道，只要彼此心連著心，就能創造更豐富的財富和更美好的生活。這使我們保持著一種付出的心態。也只有這種心態，可以讓我們不斷給予對方真正所需的東西，而不是索取，讓彼此連結得更緊密。
傳統中對心連心的看法是悲觀的。我們看看儒家禮儀上的“男女授受不親”，它表示男女之間必須保持距離。我們可以理解，儒家認為男女的身心差異較大，導致需要和感受的重點也不同，很難指望他們能夠親密地合作。當他們走得太近，也難免衝突和不滿。從近代觀察到的案例來看，情形與儒家的看法基本一致。世上真正相愛的關係與人口總數不成比例。因此，儒家的看法可以啟發我們進一步思考。
本來，男女之間的差異是心連心的契機，因為可以互相給予所需的東西。但人類的情緒與本能結合一起，產生了違背生命利益的習慣。我們習慣於索取而不是給予，所以我們奴役別人，或購買別人的生產力，甚至生命。然而，生命是互相依存的，我們無法分清楚最終彼此付出和得到多少。一旦我們為索取而走到一起，不斷計較得失，就會導致疏離而不是親密，必然無法達到真正的心連心。所以，人與人之間的關係，非但不能互相奴役，甚至利益交換也不能緊密連結。而唯一能夠產生心連心力量的，就是彼此相愛。我們必須打破阻礙我們連結的習慣。
大自然創造了自私的生命，又讓我們認識到心連心力量帶來的好處，這意味著相愛是自私的高級版本。所以，我們應該以實際行動建立相愛的關係。我們希望成為真正的自己，也就是希望發揮心連心的力量，從愛中活出生命的價值。當我們心連心，就能籍著大自然賜給我們的力量，組成一個意識的整體，不斷成長而走向永恆。回看地球上的其他物種，由於缺乏意識，都沒有得到大自然贈予心連心的力量。
由此，我們知道心連心的力量是大自然最珍貴的禮物。只要放下控制欲，深入了解別人的內心，主動滿足別人的需要，我們就能擁有這份禮物，並從相愛中創造出更多奇蹟。我們也會從相愛的關係中獲得深深的喜悅，因為這種關係是我們內心一直以來的期盼。當我們不僅意識到正在被愛，更意識到自己愛著別人，就會深刻地感受到，創造力來自心連心的力量。因為我們創造出生命最緊密的連結。
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Creativity comes from the power of
heart-to-heart connection
When we feel powerless and lonely in life, it is when we need creativity. We have instinctive drives, but these are not creative in nature and only drive us to survive and reproduce. Creativity is an innovative ability. When we use our lives to create things that nature does not originally possess, it is innovation. However, these are not imaginary things, but are created based on the needs of others. This means that we feel each other need new things, and these selfish needs connect us and fuel our creativity.
In fact, the ability to create new things cannot exist in isolation, it requires communication and interaction in order to emerge, grow and function. Even though we have the ability to think and act independently, our goals are still related to others. We hope that others will appreciate and use our work, and the minimum expectation is to gain approval from others. For example, in artistic creation, we may create it alone, but we imagine how others will feel about the work. If we lack this kind of imagination, we may not be able to complete a complete work. The driving force of creation emerges from this kind of emotional connection.
From the observation and feeling of emotional relationships, sometimes we feel lonely and stressed, and become tired of life. We also feel the need to go out for fun or adventure, otherwise the relationship will gradually regress. Perhaps at this time we still have creations, but those works tend to vent inner dissatisfaction, such as some art works reflecting disappointment with the world or life. At other times, we are calm and energetic, full of hope for the future. At these times, we not only have artistic creation, but also invention and innovation, producing works that improve the quality of life. This means that in emotional relationships, if we can connect more closely with each other, we can not only create a simple beauty in the spiritual world, making us happy just by being together, but also stimulate our creativity in the material world.
A closer connection is the comprehensive integration and cooperation of emotion and reason. This connection is loving each other. The power generated from loving each other is the power of heart-to-heart connection, which can give us inspiration and creative impulses. When we feel heart-to-heart, we feel creative and feel the need to create a better life for each other. For example, the earliest typing machine was invented for a lover. Therefore, the power of heart-to-heart not only makes us live better, but also benefits other lives.
When we sympathize with others' feelings, we can establish an emotional connection with others. For example, when we see others in pain, we remember that we have experienced it ourselves and know that this is a difficult time. This gives us the opportunity to understand each other's needs, share each other's consciousness, and support each other. Through understanding others, we can also find common points between each other, such as the need for a healthy and happy life. Therefore, the power of heart-to-heart comes from sympathy and understanding, that is, from our true self-consciousness, not some unconscious habits. When we consciously focus on every little thing in life, we will get a joyful and peaceful state of mind, think about how to meet our own and others' needs, and create new things that can meet needs. With the power of heart-to-heart, we will create beautiful relationships and a more suitable living environment.
However, gaining the power of a heart-to-heart connection depends on a deep feeling and correct understanding of our emotional connection. Perceptually, emotional connection allows us to feel each other and truly know what others need. Rationally, emotional connection means consciously caring about each other and investing time and effort in each other's health. When we feel the beauty of emotional connection and understand its selfish goals and meaning, we will hope that the connection with each other can go further and transform an ordinary relationship into a heart-to-heart relationship. We also know that as long as our hearts are connected to each other, we can create richer wealth and a better life. This keeps us in a giving mentality. Only this kind of mentality can allow us to continue to give each other what they really need instead of asking for it, making each other more closely connected.
The traditional view of heart-to-heart is pessimistic. We look at the Confucian etiquette of "Men and women should not touch each other when giving or receiving", it means that men and women must keep a distance. It can be understood from this perspective that Confucianism believes that the physical and mental differences between men and women are greater, leading to different focuses on needs and feelings, and it is difficult to expect them to cooperate intimately. When they get too close, conflicts and dissatisfaction are inevitable. From the cases observed in modern times, the situation is basically consistent with the views of Confucianism. The truly mutual loving relationships in the world are disproportionate to the total population. Therefore, the views of Confucianism can inspire us to think further.
Originally, the differences between men and women were an opportunity for heart-to-heart, because they could give each other what they needed. But human emotions and instincts combined to create habits that go against the interests of life. We are accustomed to asking rather than giving, so we enslave others, or buy other people's productivity, or even their lives. However, life is interdependent, and we cannot tell how much we give and receive from each other in the end. Once we come together for asking and constantly care about gains and losses, we will lead to alienation rather than intimacy, and are impossible to achieve true heart-to-heart. Therefore, the relationship between people, not only can not enslave each other, even the exchange of interests can not connect closely. And the only thing that can generate the power of heart-to-heart is loving each other. We must break the habits that hinder our connection.
Being accustomed to asking is caused by pathological selfishness, so we must re-understand selfishness. Logically, the genes of life are selfish, so humans are also selfish. But selfishness is normal and necessary, and we cannot survive without it. However, precisely because of selfishness, the goal of life is to connect rather than separate, tend to cooperate rather than act in isolation, so that life is safe. Therefore, loving each other is consistent with the goal of life and gives us the greatest security. In other words, love is heart-to-heart, a healthy selfish act, but asking is not. From the act of loving each other, we satisfy our physical and mental needs and gain the greatest benefits and freedom in life. This includes extending life and reproducing offspring, and making us more fearless of death. It can be seen that the power of heart-to-heart comes from selfish genes and meets our needs. We need this power to create a stronger life.
Nature created selfish life and made us realize the benefits of the power of heart-to-heart, which means that loving each other is an advanced version of selfishness. so we should establish a mutual loving relationship with practical actions. We hope to become our true self, that is, we hope to exert the power of heart-to-heart and live out the value of life from love. When we are heart-to-heart, we can form a whole of consciousness through the power given to us by nature, grow continuously and move towards eternity. Looking back at other species on the earth, due to lack of consciousness, they have not received the power of heart-to-heart given by nature.
From this, we know that the power of heart-to-heart is the most precious gift from nature. As long as we let go of desire of control, deeply understand the hearts of others, and actively meet the needs of others, we can have this gift and create miracles of love. We will also gain deep joy from loving relationships, because this kind of relationship is what our hearts have always hoped for. When we not only realize that we are being loved, but also realize that we love others, we will deeply feel that creativity comes from the power of heart-to-heart connection. Because we create the most intimate connection in life.
On July 18, 2023
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