在社交媒體盛行的時代裡，許多人仍然在孤獨的陰影中徘徊，尋找著屬於自己的情感紐帶。孤獨是一種深沉的感受，它讓人感到失落和無助，仿佛掉入無法言喻的寂寞海洋。然而，正是透過走出孤獨，並向陷於同樣處境的人伸出援手，我們才能找到那份珍貴的寧靜和愛。
寧靜和愛不僅是一種感受，還是我們的一種真實需要。因此，孤獨是對我們的警示，提醒我們應該更注重與別人建立真實、誠摯的連結。在數碼互動的背後，面對面的交流和陪伴顯得更珍貴。為了尋找真正的寧靜和愛，我們需要學會在現實生活中建立更實質的人際關係。當我們接受自己的恐懼，找到真誠對待自己的方式，就能接納別人的一切，讓關係變得更親密。
親密就像我們內心的一片天空。如果我們希望與別人比翼雙飛，親蜜地生活在同一天空，就要像鳥兒那樣擁有一雙翅膀。這雙翅膀一邊是寧靜，而另一邊是愛，缺少任何一隻我們都無法飛翔。這一雙翅膀是同時生長的。然而，我們從出生開始就失去了內心深處的寧靜，同時也失去愛別人的能力。
在出生之前，我們處於一種寧靜和愛的狀態中。在子宮裡，我們不斷吸取母親的營養，也為母親提供很多益處。我們處於一種天然的親密關係中。一旦離開子宮，我們與母親的連結被斷開了，必須獨自面對世界。因此，我們本能地感到恐懼。
我們恐懼死亡，因為生存是生命最基本的意義，而死亡會奪走它。我們也擔心與別人的關係，尤其是親密關係。因為親密關係是生命間的深度連結，是生命的高級意義。如果無法連結，生命就失去真正的價值。這些恐懼讓我們感到孤獨，失去寧靜和愛。
孤獨讓我們渴望被愛。我們渴望得到別人的保護和給予，以填補匱乏和空虛。然而，當每個人都是索取者而不是給予者，我們就無法獲得滿足的。渴望被愛是一種索取，與愛是截然不同的取向。如果每個人都期望先被愛，再斟酌是否愛別人，那麼相愛的關係就無法建立。即使兩人能夠走到一起，也只能是索取的關係。可見，如果繼續孤獨，我們就會繼續欠缺寧靜和愛。這又會使我們更加孤獨，進入一個惡性循環。
孤獨帶來焦慮和憂鬱，我們必須依靠自己來解決這些問題。我們必須從索取者轉變為給予者，像母親一樣給予自己所需，解決因需求而引起的焦慮。這能為我們帶來相對的平靜。例如，我們解決如飢餓等生理需求之後，就會有一段平靜的時間。但這種平靜通常會被憂鬱所打破。因此，我們還需將時間用於培養自己或其他生命。當我們關注生命的真正需要，並盡力去滿足它，才能不再憂鬱。在方法上，我們可以關心自己的成長，或照顧一些小動物等等。
透過解決焦慮和憂鬱，我們就能走出了孤獨，獲得持久的平靜。這樣我們也克服了恐懼，並願意將自己給予別人，主動去發展相愛的關係。只有在相愛之中，才能體驗到真正的寧靜，因為我們擁有比出生前更緊密的連結。寧靜象徵著我們有愛伴隨，即使獨處也不會感到孤獨。
與其他生命建立緊密的連結，是我們的使命和價值。因此，我們必須首先走出孤獨，在平靜中發展親密關係，從而與別人建立緊密的連結，獲得寧靜和愛。只要培養愛的意識，我們就會發現寧靜亦在心中生長，逐漸成長為一雙自由的翅膀。
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The path to Tranquility (95)
Only by stepping out of loneliness can we find tranquility and love
In the era with social media, many people are still wandering in the shadow of loneliness, searching for their emotional ties. Loneliness is a profound feeling that leaves people feeling lost and helpless, as if they have fallen into an indescribable ocean of solitude. However, it is through stepping out of loneliness and reaching out to others in the same situation that we can find that precious tranquility and love.
Tranquility and love are not only a feeling but also our real needs. Therefore, loneliness is a warning to us, reminding us to pay more attention to establishing real and sincere connections with others. Behind digital interactions, face-to-face communication and companionship become more precious. To find real tranquility and love, we need to learn to establish more substantial interpersonal relationships in real life. When we accept our fears and find ways to treat ourselves sincerely, we can accept everything about others and make the relationship more intimate.
Intimacy is like a sky within us. If we hope to fly with others side by side, and live in the same sky intimately, we must have a pair of wings like a bird. One side of these wings is tranquility, and the other side is love. Without either one, we cannot fly. These two wings grow together. However, from birth, we have lost the tranquility deep in our hearts and the ability to love others.
Before birth, we were in a state of tranquility and love. In the womb, we constantly absorbed nutrients from our mother and also provided many benefits to her. We were in a natural intimate relationship. Once we leave the womb, we are disconnected from our mother, and must face the world alone. Therefore, we instinctively feel fear.
We fear death because survival is the most basic meaning of life, and death will take it away. We also worry about relationships with others, especially intimate relationships. Because intimate relationships are deep connections between lives, they are the advanced meaning of life. If we cannot connect, life loses its true value. These fears make us feel lonely, lose tranquility and love.
Loneliness makes us desire to be loved. We desire for the protection and support of others to fill our lack and emptiness. However, when everyone is a taker and not a giver, we cannot be satisfied. The desire to be loved is a kind of taking, which is completely different from love. If everyone expects to be loved first and then consider whether to love others, then a loving relationship cannot be established. Even if the two can get together, it can only be a relationship of taking. It can be seen that if we continue to be lonely, we will continue to lack tranquility and love. This will make us more lonely and enter a vicious circle.
Loneliness brings anxiety and depression, and we must rely on ourselves to solve these problems. We must transform from takers to givers, giving ourselves what we need like a mother, and resolving the anxiety caused by needs. This can bring us relative peace. For example, after we solve physical needs such as hunger, there will be a period of peace. But this peace is usually broken by depression. Therefore, we also need to devote time to cultivating ourselves or other lives. When we pay attention to the real needs of life and try our best to meet them, we will no longer be depressed. In terms of methods, we can care about our own growth, or take care of some small animals, etc.
By solving anxiety and depression, we can step out of loneliness and gain lasting peace. In this way, we also overcome fear and are willing to give ourselves to others, actively developing loving relationships. Only in loving each other can we experience real tranquility, because we have a closer connection than before birth. Tranquility symbolizes that we have love accompanying us, and we will not feel lonely even when we are alone.
Connecting with other life closely is our mission and value. Therefore, we must first step out of loneliness, develop intimate relationships in peace, and then establish close connections with others to gain tranquility and love. As long as we cultivate the consciousness of love, we will find that tranquility also grows in our hearts, gradually growing into a pair of free wings.
On August 12, 2023
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