煩惱是我們日常生活中常見的情緒。除了來自工作、生活、人際關係等外在壓力外，更多的時候是來自於內心的困惑。如果不深刻理解過去的經歷，人們就無法根據真實的經歷來預測未來，只能透過模糊的感覺編織出一種虛構的意識。於是，眼前的一切都變得飄忽不定，內心久久處於一種莫名的焦慮之中。
人類的煩惱大多來自身心的分裂。動物直接而本能地生活。它們不自責，不糾結於是非善惡，而是自然地活在當下，彷彿處在一場無意識的夢境中，永不醒來。人類雖然具有理性和想像力，但由於意識尚未成熟，常常陷入矛盾之中。人的本能可能會受到壓抑，夢想可能會超越身心的負荷。一個渴望追求夢想，但同時又害怕失敗的人，往往會停滯不前，身心疲憊。
更深層的困境是，我們常常把情緒和習慣當成自己的本質，誤以為那就是"我"。於是，我們為虛假的自我而活，卻無法完全脫離現實，只能在半夢半醒之間徘徊。夢想與現實交織模糊，我們很難專注於人生目標，也失去了感受當下的能力。例如，一個人立志成為藝術家，但是迫於經濟壓力，他只能做自己討厭的工作。理想與現實的差距成為滋生煩惱的溫床。
煩惱不僅是內心衝突的結果，也與我們對時間的認知錯誤有關。我們常常陷入對過去的遺憾和對未來的擔憂，而忽略了現在的價值。一個因童年創傷而自尊心低落的人，如果長期被困在這段記憶中，就會很難集中精力去實現自己當前的可能。這種意識的錯位，使得煩惱總是跟著我們。
真正解決煩惱的關鍵是回歸我們的真我。當我們感到困擾時，不妨停下來，誠實地面對自己的感受，並展開內心的對話："我到底在困擾什麼？這種情緒從何而來？我該如何轉化它？"
例如，一位新員工因為老闆的批評而感到沮喪。如果他停下來反思，就會發現自己其實很害怕被解僱，而且對自己的能力缺乏信心。當他意識到問題的根源不是外在因素而是自我懷疑，就可以選擇將注意力轉移到提升自己的能力上，而不是被批評所困。
很多煩惱也源於對"需要"的誤解。我們常常將短期的“想要”誤認為長期的“需要”，從而導致焦慮和衝突。重新審視自己的願望，並將其與自己的核心價值進行比較，可以幫助我們明確方向。
例如，一位母親因為孩子不聽話而感到挫敗。起初，她以為自己需要孩子聽她的話，但後來反思發現，她真正需要的是與孩子建立一種理解和信任的關係。她放下了控制欲，轉而更加重視溝通和聯繫，她的挫敗感最終消失。
唯有在生死關頭，我們才能真正覺醒，拋棄幻想，回歸現實。然而，即使生活中沒有這種極端的情況，我們仍然可以透過修行來獲得這種辨別力。例如，一位中年男子因工作壓力大而失眠。他試著問自己："如果明天是我生命的最後一天，我還會為此擔憂嗎？" 隨後，他意識到健康和生活品質更重要，並開始調整節奏，尋找內心的平靜。
我們對完美的執著，也是煩惱的根源。我們越追求完美，就越容易陷入評價的束縛。只有接受自身的不完美，才能卸下"虛假的自我"的包袱，活出真正的自己。例如，有一位學生，他以前總是擔心自己的成績不如別人，但後來他意識到，自我成長比成績出眾更有意義。他將注意力轉向日常的進步和自我肯定，煩惱就消失了。
每個人對生活的詮釋和渴望可能不同，但滿足感並不是憑空而來的。只有深刻認識、自覺選擇，我們才能走出煩惱的迷霧，活在自己的光明天空中。動物因單純而自然，人類因覺醒而自由。當我們不再為虛假的自我而奔波，而去傾聽真我的聲音，我們就能化解煩惱，讓生命的真正價值在當下閃耀。
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Troubles are all caused by half-awake dreams
Troubles are common emotions in our daily lives. In addition to external pressures from work, life, and interpersonal relationships, they often come from inner confusion. Without a deep understanding of past experiences, people cannot predict the future based on real experiences, and can only weave a fictitious consciousness through vague feelings. As a result, everything in front of us becomes erratic, and the heart is in an inexplicable anxiety for a long time.
Most of the troubles of human beings come from the split between body and mind. Animals live directly and instinctively. They do not blame themselves, do not get entangled in right and wrong, good and evil, but live naturally in the present, as if they are in an unconscious dream and never wake up. Although humans have reason and imagination, they often fall into contradictions because their consciousness is not yet mature. People's instincts may be suppressed, and dreams may exceed the load of the body and mind. A person who is eager to pursue his dreams but is afraid of failure at the same time will often stagnate and be exhausted physically and mentally.
The deeper dilemma is that we often regard emotions and habits as our essence, mistakenly believing that is "me". As a result, we live for a false self, but cannot completely break away from reality, and can only wander between half dreaming and half awake. Dreams and reality are intertwined and blurred, and it is difficult for us to focus on our life goals, and we lose the ability to feel the present. For example, a person aspires to become an artist, but due to financial pressure, he can only do a job he hates. The gap between ideals and reality becomes a breeding ground for troubles.
Troubles are not only the result of inner conflict, but also related to our misunderstanding of time. We often get caught up in regrets about the past and worries about the future, while ignoring the value of the present. A person with low self-esteem due to childhood trauma will find it difficult to focus on realizing his current possibilities if he is trapped in this memory for a long time. This misalignment of consciousness makes troubles always follow us.
The key to truly solving troubles is to return to our true self. When we feel troubled, we might as well stop, face our feelings honestly, and start an inner dialogue: "What exactly is bothering me? Where does this emotion come from? How can I transform it?"
For example, a new employee is frustrated by criticism from his boss. If he stops to reflect, he will find that he is actually afraid of being fired and lacks confidence in his abilities. When he realizes that the root of the problem is not external factors but self-doubt, he can choose to shift his focus to improving his abilities instead of being trapped by criticism.
Many troubles also stem from misunderstanding "needs." We often mistake short-term "wants" for long-term "needs," which leads to anxiety and conflict. Re-examining our desires and comparing them to our core values can help us clarify our direction.
For example, a mother felt frustrated because her child was disobedient. At first, she thought she needed her child to listen to her, but later reflected that what she really needed was to establish a relationship of understanding and trust with her child. She let go of her desire to control and instead placed more emphasis on communication and connection, and her frustration eventually disappeared.
Only at the moment of life and death can we truly awaken, abandon illusions and return to reality. However, even if there are no such extreme situations in life, we can still gain this discernment through practice. For example, a middle-aged man suffered from insomnia due to work pressure. He tried to ask himself: "If tomorrow is the last day of my life, will I still worry about it?" Then he realized that health and quality of life are more important, and began to adjust his rhythm and find inner peace.
Our obsession with perfection is also the source of trouble. The more we pursue perfection, the easier it is to fall into the bondage of evaluation. Only by accepting our own imperfections can we unload the burden of the "false self" and live out our true self. For example, there was a student who used to worry that his grades were not as good as others, but later he realized that self-growth is more meaningful than outstanding grades. He turned his attention to daily progress and self-affirmation, and his troubles disappeared.
Everyone may have different interpretations and desires for life, but satisfaction does not come out of thin air. Only with deep understanding and conscious choice can we walk out of the fog of troubles and live in our own bright sky. Animals are natural because of their simplicity, and humans are free because of awakening. When we stop running for the false self and listen to the voice of the true self, we can resolve troubles and let the true value of life shine in the present.
On May 16, 2023
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