在炎熱的夏日，清風能為我們帶來新鮮的空氣，讓我們感到涼爽和平靜。而在人生中，愛是另一種清新的力量。它像清風一般拂過我們的內心，帶來喜悅和滿足，治癒我們的心靈。清風的美好在於即時的舒適，並提醒我們要珍惜生命的一切。而愛的美好在於終身的享受，讓我們體驗人生的豐盛和幸福。
我們可以想像，清風吹拂著竹林，竹子優雅地彎曲而無阻擋。風過後，竹林又恢復平靜。從這個情景我們可以看出，風自然而來、自然而去，流動無礙，象徵著自然的力量。其實，愛的感覺也如清風，我們只能像竹子那樣，享受它的到來，送別它的離去，無怨無悔。也只有這樣，我們的關注點才能從感覺移到意義，體會它帶來的美意。
然而，我們在享受愛的感覺時，習慣於努力留住它，而忽略它帶來的訊息。因此，當愛的感覺消逝，我們會感到強烈的悲傷，甚至怨恨，例如夫妻反目成仇，或因關係破裂而發生肢體衝突等等。為何失去愛的感覺會產生悲傷和怨恨？答案在於愛的感覺並不等同真愛。我們對愛的感覺，常常來自欲望得到滿足的愉悅。這只是一種得到的興奮，而不是給予所帶來的喜悅，意味著這種感覺並非來自真愛。我們也無法不斷地得到，因此這種感覺很快就會消退。而且，恐懼與愛是互相衝突的，我們越擔心愛的感覺消失，它就離開得越快。
就如清風那樣，愛的感覺也是大自然珍貴的禮物。然而，如果不能用它來培養真愛，就表示我們還沒有能力擁有它。那麼，它肯定會離開的。真正的愛是一種無懼地創造美好事物，以及對別人身心投入地給予和接受的行動。當我們真正愛著，就會在給予和接受的過程中，創造出生命間最緊密的連結，從而實現生命的最高價值。因此，只有培養真正的愛，愛的感覺才能留駐在我們心中。
我們真正的需要不是愛的感覺，而是從中引發的創造行動，也就是真愛。真愛將我們的心連結在一起，不斷地創造對生命有益的事物。雖然愛的感覺離去了還會再來，但真愛卻需要我們以足夠的意識來培養。從竹子迎風的姿態，我們可以得到這樣的啟發：越早放下愛的感覺，並感激它的到來和離去，從中思考和總結人生的道理，我們越容易獲得真愛。
愛的感覺離開，讓我們再次感到孤獨，就像清風離開使我們再次感到炎熱一樣，有著深遠的意義。大自然讓我們經歷清風的來去，以便我們比較炎熱和涼爽，領略清風的美妙，從而思考如何讓自己和別人活得舒適。大自然也讓我們經歷愛的感覺來了又離去，就是讓我們比較得到和給予，從而領悟真愛的價值，並思考如何去愛。實際上，這是考驗我們對真誠、善良和美好是否有足夠的認識，以及是否懷有感恩之心。
當再次遇到喜歡的人，愛的感覺來臨，我們能夠無懼地敞開心扉，真誠地表達自己，善意地聆聽和理解別人。當別人需要離開時，我們仍然能夠敞開，並送上祝福和感謝。如此，我們就有了發展真愛的基礎，因為我們已經具備尊重的心態，以及給予別人自由的基本能力。我們敞開越多，愛的感覺就越持久。只要我們尊重別人的感受和需要，讓別人有足夠的自由表達自己的想法，愛的感覺也會更加濃厚。而當我們從愛的感覺中獲得動力，勇敢且盡力去滿足別人的需要，就會發現來自真愛的喜悅已留駐在心中。
真愛融合了情感和理智，我們再也不用擔心愛的感覺離開。真愛也很單純，只要我們繼續敞開心扉，就能從中獲得慰藉和寧靜。而更重要的是，真愛還帶來身心健康，以及靈魂的成長。在現實生活中，我們可以嘗試擺脫習慣和恐懼，更理性地互動並互相支持，一起克服生活中的困難，從而體驗到真愛的感受和價值。
但我們不應忘記，愛始終具有清風的流動特性。因此，如果我們將愛變成一種習慣或儀式，而不是彼此情感和理智的交流和互動，就會像習慣了涼爽而忘記了清風從何而來，意味著我們已經忘記如何去愛。這提醒我們要時刻保持愛的意識：不受物質、本能、情緒和習慣的束縛，不斷創造和給予，這才是真愛。唯有如此，我們才能在愛中成長，讓愛伴隨一生。即便最後我們因大腦退化而意識模糊，愛仍然能為我們帶走疲憊和痛苦，使我們平靜地進入人生的最後階段。因為愛所帶來的喜悅已經扎根於心靈，可以讓我們優雅地面對死亡。
生命也如清風，來了又會離開。然而，生命、清風和愛都是大自然的一部份。因此我們應該堅信，一切都是大自然最好的安排。抱持這樣的信念，我們將坦然接受生命的際遇，沒有恐懼，不控制、不執著，並懷著深深的感激。
對清風的需要，意味著我們需要新鮮的空氣才能繼續生存。對愛的需要，則意味著我們需要連結在一起，以能組成強大的力量，使生命永遠存續。這是大自然通過清風和愛帶給我們的生命啟示。它蘊含著大自然的真善美，以及生活的指引，幫助我們實現生命的價值。有清風和愛相伴，我們就有舒適、豐盛和幸福的人生。
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The beauty brought by breeze and love
In the hot summer day, the breeze brings us fresh air, making us feel cool and calm. In life, love is another refreshing force. It sweeps through our hearts like a breeze, bringing joy and satisfaction, healing our souls. The beauty of the breeze lies in its immediate comfort, reminding us to cherish everything in life. The beauty of love lies in lifelong enjoyment, allowing us to experience the richness and happiness of life.
We can imagine that the breeze is blowing in the bamboo forest, and the bamboos bend gracefully without obstruction. After the wind passed, the bamboo forest returned to calm. From this scene, we can see that the wind comes naturally and goes naturally, flowing without hindrance, symbolizing the power of nature. In fact, the feeling of love is also like a breeze, we can only enjoy its arrival and say goodbye to its departure like bamboo, without any regrets. Also, only in this way can our focus shift from feelings to meanings and appreciate the beauty it brings.
However, when we enjoy the feeling of love, we are accustomed to trying to hold on to it and ignore the information it brings. Therefore, when the feeling of love fades, we feel intense sadness, even resentment, such as couples turn against each other, or physical conflicts occur due to broken relationships, etc. Why does the loss of the feeling of love cause sadness and resentment? The answer is that the feeling of love is not the same as true love. Our feelings for the love often come from the pleasure of satisfying desires. This is just a kind of excitement from getting, not the joy of giving, which means that this feeling does not come from true love. We also cannot keep getting, so this feeling will fade quickly. Moreover, fear and love are in conflict with each other, so the more we worry about the disappearance of the feeling of love, the faster it leaves.
Just like the breeze, the feeling of love is also a precious gift from nature. However, if we cannot use it to develop true love, we are not yet capable of having it. Then, it will definitely leave. True love is an action of creating beautiful things without fear, and of giving and acceptance with devotion to others. When we truly love, we will create the closest connection between lives in the process of giving and receiving, thereby realizing the highest value of life. Therefore, only by cultivating true love can the feeling of love stay in our hearts.
What we really need is not the feeling of love, but the creative action triggered by it, that is true love. True love connects our hearts and constantly creates things beneficial to life. Although the feeling of love will come again after it leaves, but true love requires us to cultivate with sufficient consciousness. From the posture of bamboo facing the wind, we can get such inspiration: the earlier we let go of the feeling of love, and appreciate its coming and going, think about and summarize the principles of life from it, the easier we can obtain true love.
The departure of the feeling of love makes us feel lonely again, just as the departure of the breeze makes us feel hot again, which has profound significance. Nature allows us to experience the coming and going of the breeze, in order to let us compare hot and cool, appreciate the wonderful of breeze, and then think about how to make ourselves and others live comfortably. Nature also allows us experience the coming and going of the feeling of love, which let us compare getting and giving, so as to understand the value of true love, and think about how to love. In fact, this is a test of whether we have enough understanding of sincerity, kindness, and beauty, and whether we have a grateful heart.
When we meet someone we like again, and the feeling of love comes, we can open our hearts fearlessly, sincerely express ourselves, kindly listen and understand others. When others need to leave, we can still open up and send blessings and thanks. In this way, we have the foundation to develop true love, because we already have a respectful attitude and the basic ability to give others freedom. The more we open up, the more lasting the feeling of love. As long as we respect the other's feelings and needs, give the other enough freedom to express their thoughts, the feeling of love will be more intense. And when we gain motivation from the feeling of love, bravely and try our best to meet the needs of others, we will find that the joy from true love has stayed in our hearts.
True love integrates emotion and reason, and we no longer have to worry about the feeling of love leaving. True love is also very simple and pure, as long as we continue to open our hearts, we can get comfort and tranquility from it. What's more important is that true love also brings physical and mental health, as well as the growth of the soul. In real life, we can try to get rid of habits and fears, interact more rationally and support each other, overcome difficulties in life together, and thereby experience the feeling and value of true love.
But we should not forget that love always has the flowing characteristics of a breeze. Therefore, if we turn love into a habit or ritual instead of emotional and intellectual communication and interaction with each other, it will be like getting used to the coolness and forgetting where the breeze comes from, which means that we have forgotten how to love. This reminds us to always maintain the consciousness of love: not being bound by material, instinct, emotion, and habit, constantly create and give, this is true love. Only in this way can we grow in love and let love accompany us throughout our life. Even in the end, we become unconscious due to brain degeneration, love can still take away our fatigue and pain, allowing us to calmly enter the final stage of life. Because the joy brought by love has taken root in the soul, it can make us face death gracefully.
Life is also like a breeze, it comes and leaves again. However, life, breeze, and love are all part of nature. So we should firmly believe that everything is the best arrangement of nature. With this belief, we will accept life's encounters calmly, without fear, without control, without attachment, and with deep gratitude.
The need for fresh air means that we need fresh air to continue to survive. The need for love means that we need to be connected together to form a powerful force so that life can last forever. This is the life revelation that nature brings to us through the breeze and love. It contains the truth, kindness and beauty of nature, as well as the guidance of life, helping us realize the value of life. With the breeze and love accompanying us, we will have a comfortable, abundant and happy life.
On July 28, 2023
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